Honestly it’s hard to give advice without knowing if this is something that is regularly a problem or just happened once in awhile. If he spends a lot of his free time away from home then it needs to be addressed, and you should confront him about how that makes you feel.
However, if he does make time for you often, I see no issue with him taking a day to spend time with his friends. Do you have other people you can rely on? I don’t think it’s necessarily healthy to put all of the weight of supporting you emotionally onto one person. Seeing his friends may also be HIS way of dealing with a stressful time.
Also, did you communicate with him and tell him that you were struggling and wanted him to stay home? Because if not, he can’t read your mind. Yes, you had a bad week, but based off of what you described, nothing catastrophic seems to have happened. I think it’s reasonable to assume that it wasn’t severe enough for him to cancel plans without you asking him to.
Yeah seriously. I can't imagine policing a partners masterbating.
If you and your father went out one night and met your wife and her mother, hit it off and started dating, would that have been an issue?
What's the difference?
Honestly it’s hard to give advice without knowing if this is something that is regularly a problem or just happened once in awhile. If he spends a lot of his free time away from home then it needs to be addressed, and you should confront him about how that makes you feel.
However, if he does make time for you often, I see no issue with him taking a day to spend time with his friends. Do you have other people you can rely on? I don’t think it’s necessarily healthy to put all of the weight of supporting you emotionally onto one person. Seeing his friends may also be HIS way of dealing with a stressful time.
Also, did you communicate with him and tell him that you were struggling and wanted him to stay home? Because if not, he can’t read your mind. Yes, you had a bad week, but based off of what you described, nothing catastrophic seems to have happened. I think it’s reasonable to assume that it wasn’t severe enough for him to cancel plans without you asking him to.