Not at all. It doesn’t excuse what happens to a victim. All of my recents comments have been about how to lessen the chances of being a victim not blaming them for it happening. A rapist is still bad and she isn’t wrong for putting herself in a position of vulnerability.
Except that’s not the core issue here. He’s not saying he’s uncomfortable doing it. He’s saying he doesn’t want to do it because he doesn’t think it’s necessary. I wholeheartedly agree that no one has to do something they’re uncomfortable with, but that doesn’t apply here.
You said it yourself. Your son won't play against you because you thrash him mercilessly. She wants her child to love the game (I presume) she has loved her whole life. It is obvious why she's letting him win. It's also obvious that she is lying to you about it because you are being insufferable.
It's not why he doesn't spend more time with you, it's simply that he doesn't and you want him to.
You only need to see this from your perspective, you want a relationship that offers you that. You're not a kid anymore, get what you want, not the crumbs you're offered.
There are loads of blokes out there that could offer that, why pin your colours to a guy that won't give you that?
Why not? It’s been four months. Dating is to find someone who’s right for you, and I promise that you can do better than this guy who doesn’t respect you at all.
You have concern move on she not a safe bet
NTA he's an asshole
Not at all. It doesn’t excuse what happens to a victim. All of my recents comments have been about how to lessen the chances of being a victim not blaming them for it happening. A rapist is still bad and she isn’t wrong for putting herself in a position of vulnerability.
Except that’s not the core issue here. He’s not saying he’s uncomfortable doing it. He’s saying he doesn’t want to do it because he doesn’t think it’s necessary. I wholeheartedly agree that no one has to do something they’re uncomfortable with, but that doesn’t apply here.
You said it yourself. Your son won't play against you because you thrash him mercilessly. She wants her child to love the game (I presume) she has loved her whole life. It is obvious why she's letting him win. It's also obvious that she is lying to you about it because you are being insufferable.
It's not why he doesn't spend more time with you, it's simply that he doesn't and you want him to.
You only need to see this from your perspective, you want a relationship that offers you that. You're not a kid anymore, get what you want, not the crumbs you're offered.
There are loads of blokes out there that could offer that, why pin your colours to a guy that won't give you that?
OP is a fool. I stopped caring and didn't even bother finish reading your post OP because you said “I play in multiple bands…”
You are doing it to yourself, and thus are 100 percent to blame. Either pick one, a relationship or multiple bands and stress.
… ditch him. Do not date someone like this.
I’m giving it a few days to see how it feels.
Why not? It’s been four months. Dating is to find someone who’s right for you, and I promise that you can do better than this guy who doesn’t respect you at all.