My ex would joke that in Brazil he would “throw cats over the river and watch them drown” and i didn't see that as a red flag. I thought he was joking. He actually did do that and will laugh about torturing mice in his backyard to this day. Don't be w someone who doesn't respect animals. Animals can't advocate for themselves and are innocent. Imagine how he will treat you in the future if you stay.
Do you think it's possible that she married you to hide her true sexual nature from her controlling, conservative parents?
It wouldn't be the first time a gay person married someone to help them deny, even to themselves, that they are more attracted to people of the same sex. That's especially true when the person was raised in a Bible thumping, evangelical church going, ultra-conservative family.
Yeah this only the second incident, and even after the first I was feeling really wary about consent. However at the same time I don’t want to give up this relationship, because this happens so rarely and it’s really been my only issue with him. If it continues though, I think you’re right to be concerned about consent because I am too. I’m gonna try talking to him again, but if this continues I don’t think I can stay
If it really was the first time she did this. I would require her to stop drinking it does seem to put her in a dangerous place. Let her continue on her trip. Having her cancel the trip sounds controlling and that is not good for a relationship either.
It may be accurate that over 90% of sex offenders are men, but guess what? That 10% is still out there offending. Unfortunately you were a victim of one of the 10%. I'm sorry you're going through this and I'm sorry your ex girlfriend is an ass who can't comprehend the existence of outliers even as she implicitly acknowledges them. I hope you have other support from friends & family.
Almost every problem on this subreddit can be helped by clear and direct communication. You should sit down with your girlfriend and explain your understanding of what gaslighting is and how it makes you feel to be accused of something horrible like that when you are trying to work through a simple disagreement as partners. Her behavior will end your relationship if you can't find a healthier way to communicate. This is like if you condescendingly blamed her menstrual cycle any time she disagreed with you.
You saw the red flags from the beginning. You stuck it out for a year hoping love would be enough.
It's not.
You don't love him anymore. He sounds irritating tbh; I don't blame you. Leave him and find someone who can and wants to communicate.
My ex would joke that in Brazil he would “throw cats over the river and watch them drown” and i didn't see that as a red flag. I thought he was joking. He actually did do that and will laugh about torturing mice in his backyard to this day. Don't be w someone who doesn't respect animals. Animals can't advocate for themselves and are innocent. Imagine how he will treat you in the future if you stay.
Do you think it's possible that she married you to hide her true sexual nature from her controlling, conservative parents?
It wouldn't be the first time a gay person married someone to help them deny, even to themselves, that they are more attracted to people of the same sex. That's especially true when the person was raised in a Bible thumping, evangelical church going, ultra-conservative family.
Yeah this only the second incident, and even after the first I was feeling really wary about consent. However at the same time I don’t want to give up this relationship, because this happens so rarely and it’s really been my only issue with him. If it continues though, I think you’re right to be concerned about consent because I am too. I’m gonna try talking to him again, but if this continues I don’t think I can stay
If it really was the first time she did this. I would require her to stop drinking it does seem to put her in a dangerous place. Let her continue on her trip. Having her cancel the trip sounds controlling and that is not good for a relationship either.
The comment you're replying to is talking about parental rights termination.
So far I don't think any state has made an specific clarification on abortion in case of rape yet, though your point in regards to that is valid.
It may be accurate that over 90% of sex offenders are men, but guess what? That 10% is still out there offending. Unfortunately you were a victim of one of the 10%. I'm sorry you're going through this and I'm sorry your ex girlfriend is an ass who can't comprehend the existence of outliers even as she implicitly acknowledges them. I hope you have other support from friends & family.
Almost every problem on this subreddit can be helped by clear and direct communication. You should sit down with your girlfriend and explain your understanding of what gaslighting is and how it makes you feel to be accused of something horrible like that when you are trying to work through a simple disagreement as partners. Her behavior will end your relationship if you can't find a healthier way to communicate. This is like if you condescendingly blamed her menstrual cycle any time she disagreed with you.
Honey, it is time to run!!
So she’s right in saying it’s impossible to say who’s better at accounting?