Idk, I’m not really sure you need concrete evidence when his weird behavior is pretty much telling you that you are right. He’s deflecting, defensive, redirecting the blame. Classic DARVO response. Of course you could go digging deeper but I think that’s just a waste of time. Personally I’d be planning my exit situation and a lawyer.
Don’t shift all the blame on OP. She is equally capable of initiating things, but chooses not to. If he gets rejected 99% of time time, no shit the effort put into foreplay is going to drop. He knows it’s not going anywhere, so he’s probably at the point of why bother. And sure you can come up with a myriad of other reasons to shift the blame to OP, but if the fiancée isn’t bringing any potential issues up, he can’t really do anything about it. Further how is he supposed to do anything “better” if he never gets the chance
If you think there's not that much to do, then I'm guessing you're not doing much. That's a pretty big problem. Life takes a lot of work – who's meal planning, grocery shopping, making medical appointments, paying bills, doing taxes, taking the car for an oil change or to fill up with gas?
Because frankly, you should be doing all of that and more if you're only paying half the bills while your per-hour income is so much higher than hers.
You should leave her alone and try to be fun around your other friends so when she approaches you you could say something like “nah you don't want to hangout with someone as boring as myself” lmao
Idk, I’m not really sure you need concrete evidence when his weird behavior is pretty much telling you that you are right. He’s deflecting, defensive, redirecting the blame. Classic DARVO response. Of course you could go digging deeper but I think that’s just a waste of time. Personally I’d be planning my exit situation and a lawyer.
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He's definitely ghosting you, incredibly cowardly behavior ?
Sounds like he either got paranoid or made some false assumptions that you were lying about something, and didn't even bother to talk to you about it.
Either way, the way he's acting shows very clearly that he's not one of “the good ones.” Good riddance.
She says in the comments that he already covers more than 50%.
I am aware
You don’t need his permission. He’s being insecure and controlling.
She’s back at the depot.
Don’t shift all the blame on OP. She is equally capable of initiating things, but chooses not to. If he gets rejected 99% of time time, no shit the effort put into foreplay is going to drop. He knows it’s not going anywhere, so he’s probably at the point of why bother. And sure you can come up with a myriad of other reasons to shift the blame to OP, but if the fiancée isn’t bringing any potential issues up, he can’t really do anything about it. Further how is he supposed to do anything “better” if he never gets the chance
That justifies what she did to him somehow?
If you think there's not that much to do, then I'm guessing you're not doing much. That's a pretty big problem. Life takes a lot of work – who's meal planning, grocery shopping, making medical appointments, paying bills, doing taxes, taking the car for an oil change or to fill up with gas?
Because frankly, you should be doing all of that and more if you're only paying half the bills while your per-hour income is so much higher than hers.
This break up is about the be the best pre-work out you ever had.
Now hit the gym with your bros. ??
You should leave her alone and try to be fun around your other friends so when she approaches you you could say something like “nah you don't want to hangout with someone as boring as myself” lmao
Sick and tired of that thread, really.
He opened a second thread.
Where he mentioned that his wife – running into their friday dinner- assumed this meant they had an affair.
Where he assumed it was totally normal.
Them being together 4 years, married 1,5. May just have overestimated the amount of trust he inspired to her. ?
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