If you need to lie about such a fundamental thing “to make/keep him happy” your relationship is doomed. Tell him the truth and let the chips fall where they may. Good luck!
You can bet she was also cheating before the marriage as well. Get a lawyer and get a divorce. Your relationship is not only over, it in fact never began. So you are losing anything.
She's not in love with you, just with your paycheck. She was using you for financial security. I'd say get a divorce now that you don't have assets to share with her She is the one not honoring her vows , for richer or poorer ” She hasn't even tried to get a job to help you
You're right, we avoid toxic people. My main fear is burdening her with maturing rapidly and not letting her enjoy her early 20s.
You've got yourself a peach there. A bully who passes unpleasantness down the line and he's identified you as a victim.
No…you are NOT being “overly dramatic”.
Despite being an experience founded in reciprocity…..of sorts…….Sexual
Behavior in and of itself is not actually a QUID PRO QUO activity and your
injury and confusion are very much the reason why.
If your partner asked for you to express your energy for the Bond in a
particular way, you as an autonomous individual have the right to
provide that expression….or Not. Your choice.
The same goes for your partner towards you.
However, in a QUID PRO QUO dynamic, should one partner demur,
it follows that the OTHER partner does not feel compelled….if they ever had.
This kind of “book-keeping” rapidly degrades into a manipulative witholding of
affection…..commonly on ALL Planes of the Human experience.
BTW: It is instructive that your Partner asked for you to express yourself
in what is generally regarded as a submissive behavior accepted as a
self-gratifying experience for your partner. If this is what you have
allowed the Nature of your Sexuality to degrade to, you have some
negotiating to do with your partner. FWIW.
Yip.
If you need to lie about such a fundamental thing “to make/keep him happy” your relationship is doomed. Tell him the truth and let the chips fall where they may. Good luck!
I don't know what you're talking about
This is the least surprising thing I've read, but I'm guessing you're accustomed to this feeling. Don't worry, it'll pass soon like it always does
You can bet she was also cheating before the marriage as well. Get a lawyer and get a divorce. Your relationship is not only over, it in fact never began. So you are losing anything.
She's not in love with you, just with your paycheck. She was using you for financial security. I'd say get a divorce now that you don't have assets to share with her She is the one not honoring her vows , for richer or poorer ” She hasn't even tried to get a job to help you