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Carrie-Torres Public Chat Channel
Date: October 5, 2022
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You asked me to answer what positive affect goes knowing something sexual that my partner has previously done? Easy. People who engage in a sexual relationship need to be able to ask for things they want to try. Of course their partner has the absolute right to decline it! But sexuality isn’t just acrobatics, it’s intimacy, some opening up and enhance the other’s pleasure. If a person hasn’t tried xyz before and agrees to try it, the partner can know to be more gentle (slower) mindful. If the person tried xyz before and agrees to do it, the partner can ask for direction on how the person likes it. If a person tried xyz but doesn’t want to do it, the partner absolutely must accept it but it wouldn’t be off base to ask what made the experience off putting for the person not to try it again. Why that’s a relevant question? Bc the person might describe the act as painful or degrading or whatever other unpleasant adjective or maybe not even an unpleasant adjective it might be a neutral adjective – such as boring, not satisfying, just okay…that gives the partner insight on what the person likes in the bedroom in general between the two of them. If two people engage in sex , they should be mature enough to discuss it.
I don’t think that two people should rehash entirety of personal sexual histories , especially what’s been done with what particular partner (that’s violating the ex partner’s privacies!).
Some people do equate the number of lovers with the inability to pair bond. To those views, I say to each his own.
You stop sleeping with such a selfish person.
That is a long time to be with someone so I say you should do whatever you feel. Some are able to forgive and forget. Personally if it were me I'd be completely done with him. He could've brought you a disease that you can't get rid of and the fact that he just doesn't care is really sad. It seems like something he'd do again so keep that in mind if you stay. Well wishes. ❤️
Don’t blame your sister at all.
Your husband raped her.
You mention she was so drunk you had to help her. She was not able to consent. Hell, she probably didn’t even understand what was going on.
Divorce his ass immediately.
Well, he needs to understand that his worth is also determined by others not just himself. And that his worth will increase the more work he does. He needs to understand that and deal with his life situation realistically and pragmatically.
But you also have to know that you can not change him. If you are not satisfied in the relationship, you ought to evaluate it.
I mean it depends how much money he makes. People watch porn, it’s normal. I wouldn’t say him spending money on porn is wrong. If he makes a lot and 18k is a drop in the bucket, then it’s not that big of a deal in my opinion. If it’s a big portion of his income, then yes it’s an issue. Similar to a gambling or drug addiction; at least he’s started to work on it.
That's financial abuse!
I'm most fixated on the possibility of my husband one day asking for an open marriage. I'm depressed about my mom being right and my husband possibly changing his mind to have a kid without me. Sounding like if I want to keep my husband, I have to explore that option of open marriage, which I really don't want to do.
Does that possibility seem reasonable to you? Was it something you had even considered or discussed with him before your mother said something about it?
I see in other comments you mention your cultural background is Asian. As I'm sure you know, there's a lot of cultural stuff bound up with having children, and having children by any means necessary, AND shaming those who do not have children, for any reason.
Your husband may change his mind in 10 years and decide he really does want to have children. Nothing you can do will change that. You two married with all the cards on the table as you held them at the time – that's all anyone can ask for. You can't tell the future, and neither can he, and neither can your mother.
I really urge you to seek counselling on this – it sounds like it is really affecting your life day to day in a very unhealthy way.
I think it'd be beneficial for you to look up cycle of abuse, and maybe read the book “why does he do that”.
Physically restraining you and getting aggressively in your face is unacceptable behavior. Blaming you and flipping it on you when you try to tell him you don't like it is a classic manipulation tactic.
Maybe he doesn't realize what he's doing. Doesn't change the fact that his actions are abusive.