it happens and is valid short term. Gender disappointment is a thing. There's a life you picture with your little one and gender plays into that. If it's been more than a week and he's still struggling, then therapy and getting to the root of why needs to be addressed. And all feelings need to be settled long before baby comes and support for you should never waver
On bdays she gets amazing presents, it’s obvious that my partner hasn’t thought of them. She never even said thank you to me. But last year I haven’t given it to her personally.
This year I gave her the present with my partner and she hugged him and say thank you my son. Didn’t even look at me. Then said thank you again to him and he replied. It’s from the two of us so she says thank you to me with 0 energy and proceeds to excessively hug and thank my partner to make it obvious maybe idk.
Once she was invited last minute by her friend to the USA as her husband wasn’t able to fly and she could take his ticket free. She didn’t have much money then and she asked for money. We couldn’t give her the company car and at that point my husband card was being used by his 18 year old brother who went to uni. So my husband said if I can give her my card, and he’ll reimburse me anything later . I said it’s fine, she brought everyone presents. A Gucci wallet, Gucci tie, a lv belt for her sons, bought herself lots of Burberry and for me a tank top from H&M. I was really mad that she spent that kind of money as I myself haven’t been buying any designer really. But when I saw what she brought for everyone vs me I was livid as it was my money anyway.
I finally bought myself some d&g, whenever I buy something (cheap) she’s very excited and says “omg I love it, where did you get it?” “Turn around for me” “you look so good”. I telling you I thought we were best friends. That day she looked at the shopping bag with disgust, didn’t ask what I bought or anything at all. On nye she said “is that what you bought” I says yeah and she said “oh and a disgusted face”
He obviously doesn't want to do it. A person can be okay with their partner having a kink and simultaneously not want to participate in that kink – ya feel me? He isn't judging you, but he's not into it. I think that's where your disconnect is.
Any BDSM or BDSM-adjacent stuff needs to be thoroughly talked about and agreed on by both parties. You're feeling upset and you can talk to him about it – maybe ask him to go through a sex quiz with you and mark/talk about what you're both into so you know more. Maybe there is something less extreme that he would be willing to try so you can meet in the middle.
However – you can't make him do something he doesn't want to do. Not everyone is into that, despite what porn would have us all believe.
Be honest but gentle. Tell him you're not ready for that. His bubble may burst but you shouldn't be rushed into something you're not ready for that may very well become something you'll regret.
Don’t be confused, though. This isn’t your choice. Your parents are making a choice. Who’s to say that they would EVER approve?
I don't think so, it's just an easier way of responding to the same questions from different people.
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it happens and is valid short term. Gender disappointment is a thing. There's a life you picture with your little one and gender plays into that. If it's been more than a week and he's still struggling, then therapy and getting to the root of why needs to be addressed. And all feelings need to be settled long before baby comes and support for you should never waver
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On bdays she gets amazing presents, it’s obvious that my partner hasn’t thought of them. She never even said thank you to me. But last year I haven’t given it to her personally.
This year I gave her the present with my partner and she hugged him and say thank you my son. Didn’t even look at me. Then said thank you again to him and he replied. It’s from the two of us so she says thank you to me with 0 energy and proceeds to excessively hug and thank my partner to make it obvious maybe idk.
Once she was invited last minute by her friend to the USA as her husband wasn’t able to fly and she could take his ticket free. She didn’t have much money then and she asked for money. We couldn’t give her the company car and at that point my husband card was being used by his 18 year old brother who went to uni. So my husband said if I can give her my card, and he’ll reimburse me anything later . I said it’s fine, she brought everyone presents. A Gucci wallet, Gucci tie, a lv belt for her sons, bought herself lots of Burberry and for me a tank top from H&M. I was really mad that she spent that kind of money as I myself haven’t been buying any designer really. But when I saw what she brought for everyone vs me I was livid as it was my money anyway.
I finally bought myself some d&g, whenever I buy something (cheap) she’s very excited and says “omg I love it, where did you get it?” “Turn around for me” “you look so good”. I telling you I thought we were best friends. That day she looked at the shopping bag with disgust, didn’t ask what I bought or anything at all. On nye she said “is that what you bought” I says yeah and she said “oh and a disgusted face”
So when you’re upset he lies and says he didn’t do the thing that upset you?
He's told you who he is, and people don't change.
Yes, they do.
Why is he dating a 25 year old instead of someone his age?
Impending menopause, probably.
I’m glad you broke up with her so she can find someone who respects her
She is blackmailing him and/or pregnant
I would like an update me
Updateme please
He obviously doesn't want to do it. A person can be okay with their partner having a kink and simultaneously not want to participate in that kink – ya feel me? He isn't judging you, but he's not into it. I think that's where your disconnect is.
Any BDSM or BDSM-adjacent stuff needs to be thoroughly talked about and agreed on by both parties. You're feeling upset and you can talk to him about it – maybe ask him to go through a sex quiz with you and mark/talk about what you're both into so you know more. Maybe there is something less extreme that he would be willing to try so you can meet in the middle.
However – you can't make him do something he doesn't want to do. Not everyone is into that, despite what porn would have us all believe.
You get rid of both of them.
Be honest but gentle. Tell him you're not ready for that. His bubble may burst but you shouldn't be rushed into something you're not ready for that may very well become something you'll regret.