I just feel sorry for you . What is the rush to move in with someone especially you get an ultimatum to do something that is clearly against your will.
Time to drop this man. He’s a 35 immature man. Who definitely feels inferior with a woman trying to take charge. Serious question. What does this man do for a living and what about you. It might be very telling of his behavior towards you.
Are you and I with the same person??? Worse for me is my bf has seasonal job so from nov 1- march 30 he doesn’t work. He literally doesn’t leave the house. I do the shopping so there will be times he literally only leaves the house for thanksgiving and Christmas Day and that’s only because I (in his words) FORCE him.. so I do not get a single day to myself until his work season starts back up. (Where as he gets 4 12 hour days of completely alone)
Although I agree that they NEED to be discussed before hand at least light choking and smacking the booty are EXTREMELY COMMON.. the choking thing weirds me out anyway so I could never do any actual choking more like a light squeeze
The fact you were afraid to speak up in the first place place because you didn't want to “annoy him” pretty much says he has you pretty beaten down.
You can either continue to allow him to disrespect you and wait for him to toss you aside, which he will at some point. Or you can stop doubting yourself and dump him. I vote strongly to dump.
Technically it shows that her phone was at his house ??♂️
I just feel sorry for you . What is the rush to move in with someone especially you get an ultimatum to do something that is clearly against your will.
Ehh
Time to drop this man. He’s a 35 immature man. Who definitely feels inferior with a woman trying to take charge. Serious question. What does this man do for a living and what about you. It might be very telling of his behavior towards you.
Are you and I with the same person??? Worse for me is my bf has seasonal job so from nov 1- march 30 he doesn’t work. He literally doesn’t leave the house. I do the shopping so there will be times he literally only leaves the house for thanksgiving and Christmas Day and that’s only because I (in his words) FORCE him.. so I do not get a single day to myself until his work season starts back up. (Where as he gets 4 12 hour days of completely alone)
To give advice when I have applicable experience
So, he got what he deserved? Hopefully he learned his lesson?
Imagine your response if the genders were reversed.
If you copy and past the name of this post without the word update, you will see the option for the original post.
I would pretend I’m over it and act regular but behind the scenes I would be a private investigator.
Although I agree that they NEED to be discussed before hand at least light choking and smacking the booty are EXTREMELY COMMON.. the choking thing weirds me out anyway so I could never do any actual choking more like a light squeeze
The fact you were afraid to speak up in the first place place because you didn't want to “annoy him” pretty much says he has you pretty beaten down.
You can either continue to allow him to disrespect you and wait for him to toss you aside, which he will at some point. Or you can stop doubting yourself and dump him. I vote strongly to dump.
I think you're looking for r/AmITheAsshole. Moral judgement requests are against the rules of this subreddit.