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Honestly, it sounds like he has more severe diagnoses than that. If he's not currently seeing a mental health professional, he needs to asap. Generalized anxiety disorder and depression don't look like what you're describing on their own. Self harm behaviors, severe emotional dysregulation, and self-isolation and so on are hallmarks of a different level of care needed. Not all mental illnesses are static, sometimes they progress to bigger issues as we grow older or are left untreated.
Would you tell a friend dating an addict to “try harder”? Probably not.
Hopefully losing you will be enough to push her to get help for herself but you do not need to be dragged down with her. She has shown you that she can’t love you more than alcohol and its not going to get better until she wants to get better.
It’s not how much you drink, it’s how much you want that drink that makes you an alcoholic.
This. OP, all of this is SO critically important. Tonight, sit down with your parents and explain exactly what is going on. Spell it out for them. They WILL help you. They love you and want you to be safe. As a Mom who is likely pretty close to their age, I'll tell you now, not a lot shocks us and they won't be shocked. Surprised but not shocked. And they will have the wisdom to immediately get the ball rolling to keep you safe while home.
As far as the guy goes, send 1 text stating: “Its over. I do NOT want a relationship with you. It is absolutely over. Do not contact me under any circumstances.” Then block him. Block him on all social media platforms. Block his number. Check to make sure all of your identifiable data is locked down so he can't track your address online.
If he escalates, immediately go to the police. Don't play around with this.
Sis, you will feel like a 180lb weight is off your shoudlers as soon as you pull the trigger on this. No matter what, do NOT go back to him. He is not a safe person.
This is a good point I don’t want to scare off someone great because they don’t want me to talk to my ex, because I would understand that
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That’s a committee partner. Good for you finding someone like that. It’s not common!
Why don't you just move the cat food bowls somewhere else?
Honestly, it sounds like he has more severe diagnoses than that. If he's not currently seeing a mental health professional, he needs to asap. Generalized anxiety disorder and depression don't look like what you're describing on their own. Self harm behaviors, severe emotional dysregulation, and self-isolation and so on are hallmarks of a different level of care needed. Not all mental illnesses are static, sometimes they progress to bigger issues as we grow older or are left untreated.
Beyond the pale.
Would you tell a friend dating an addict to “try harder”? Probably not.
Hopefully losing you will be enough to push her to get help for herself but you do not need to be dragged down with her. She has shown you that she can’t love you more than alcohol and its not going to get better until she wants to get better.
It’s not how much you drink, it’s how much you want that drink that makes you an alcoholic.
You clearly know the right thing to do because you feel shitty about the situation. You are choosing not to for your own selfish reasons
This. OP, all of this is SO critically important. Tonight, sit down with your parents and explain exactly what is going on. Spell it out for them. They WILL help you. They love you and want you to be safe. As a Mom who is likely pretty close to their age, I'll tell you now, not a lot shocks us and they won't be shocked. Surprised but not shocked. And they will have the wisdom to immediately get the ball rolling to keep you safe while home.
As far as the guy goes, send 1 text stating: “Its over. I do NOT want a relationship with you. It is absolutely over. Do not contact me under any circumstances.” Then block him. Block him on all social media platforms. Block his number. Check to make sure all of your identifiable data is locked down so he can't track your address online.
If he escalates, immediately go to the police. Don't play around with this.
Sis, you will feel like a 180lb weight is off your shoudlers as soon as you pull the trigger on this. No matter what, do NOT go back to him. He is not a safe person.
I keep saying that if we look at other people's phones we deserve what we get
He’s likely going to divorce you and contest child support payments. Unless he is an imbecile or has incompetent counsel, he will win.
You should get a better job and learn to raise that kid solo, and maybe go after the kids dad for support.