Coming from a therapist here: does she have any other obsession/compulsion tendencies? Hair picking is a huge one- if she is spending that much time a day assessing it and picking, she likely needs some help. The hard part is that she is likely to be defensive due to it being such a sensitive topic. I would try to find a good time, and sit her down for a conversation. When you approach it- use lots of “I” statements rather than “you” statements (I am worried about your skin and your health, I am concerned about your self-confidence when it comes to your facial hair and picking; rather than you do this you do that). You could suggest couples counseling for just general communication issues and then bring it up with the therapist to bridge communication as well. I hope this helps!!
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It’s not, I do understand our age gap is a bit big but he’s no longer my supervisor. I have read messages between them and they hardly speak to each other about personal stuff. Only things stuff to support his daughter.
Well i looked through your post history and you are absolutely anti-women. You are a part of hate filled subreddits and seem to love hating on everything women do. You have a very toxic mindset so you should break up because she deserves better
Based of of your post and comments you still sound like the same selfish person you were at 18. How does having your brother at your wedding benefit anyone besides you? If you were really sorry you would have said that when you apologized and stopped interacting with his ex immediately. But your selfish so you didn’t. You had years to atone and you didn’t because it didn’t serve you. You probably thought you would wait it out and your reasonable, logical and calm brother would get over it, put a good face on and you could move on like nothing happened.
Some things are hard to forgive and harder for some people to ever forgive. You never said you apologized. You don’t want forgiveness you want acceptance.
Do your thing. Just as it’s not your job to atone for the sins of his girlfriends past, it’s not your job to manage his insecurities.
The most you can do is be up front and honest, don’t start lying about perfectly normal interactions with coworkers because you’re afraid of his response.
Reassure him that you love him, but don’t get involved in defending and justifying that you’re a normal human person who interacts with friends and colleagues.
If he can’t deal with it, this probably isn’t going to work out.
So you’re just going to quit? You made a baby and because you’re too much of a pussy to face up to life’s consequences you want your kid to grow up without a father?
Get therapy, call professionals and OWN YOUR SHIT.
You are correct. The secret would kill me. Talking to her husband later today when he gets to work.
The prisoner transfer that happens for no other reason than to help the prisoner escape
Coming from a therapist here: does she have any other obsession/compulsion tendencies? Hair picking is a huge one- if she is spending that much time a day assessing it and picking, she likely needs some help. The hard part is that she is likely to be defensive due to it being such a sensitive topic. I would try to find a good time, and sit her down for a conversation. When you approach it- use lots of “I” statements rather than “you” statements (I am worried about your skin and your health, I am concerned about your self-confidence when it comes to your facial hair and picking; rather than you do this you do that). You could suggest couples counseling for just general communication issues and then bring it up with the therapist to bridge communication as well. I hope this helps!!
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He should make an appointment to see a doctor. If that gets no results then I would suggest a sex therapist.
He should make an appointment to see a doctor. If that gets no results then I would suggest a sex therapist.
Bitch, if you aren't going to be helpful, don't waste your time responding
And what I want can be read in the last paragraph. Dont act blind and stupid
It’s not, I do understand our age gap is a bit big but he’s no longer my supervisor. I have read messages between them and they hardly speak to each other about personal stuff. Only things stuff to support his daughter.
Give up on it go your separate ways and just learn from it so you don't fuck up the next relationship
Well i looked through your post history and you are absolutely anti-women. You are a part of hate filled subreddits and seem to love hating on everything women do. You have a very toxic mindset so you should break up because she deserves better
of course you agree with the one comment that is terrible advice but caters to your entitlement
Her best friend is garbage and you should marry her now since she got all that out of her system.
Based of of your post and comments you still sound like the same selfish person you were at 18. How does having your brother at your wedding benefit anyone besides you? If you were really sorry you would have said that when you apologized and stopped interacting with his ex immediately. But your selfish so you didn’t. You had years to atone and you didn’t because it didn’t serve you. You probably thought you would wait it out and your reasonable, logical and calm brother would get over it, put a good face on and you could move on like nothing happened.
Some things are hard to forgive and harder for some people to ever forgive. You never said you apologized. You don’t want forgiveness you want acceptance.
Leave your brother alone.
Do your thing. Just as it’s not your job to atone for the sins of his girlfriends past, it’s not your job to manage his insecurities.
The most you can do is be up front and honest, don’t start lying about perfectly normal interactions with coworkers because you’re afraid of his response.
Reassure him that you love him, but don’t get involved in defending and justifying that you’re a normal human person who interacts with friends and colleagues.
If he can’t deal with it, this probably isn’t going to work out.
So you’re just going to quit? You made a baby and because you’re too much of a pussy to face up to life’s consequences you want your kid to grow up without a father?
Get therapy, call professionals and OWN YOUR SHIT.
Make sure to remove him off any accounts, change pins, and disconnect any utilities in your name.