I think that if I gave her space she would slowly start to talk,open up emotionally and eventually want to work things out. Space to her seems to mean talking about getting back together. She will hang out and spend time with me. She calls me and messages me. But the space she wants is a place where the pressure of these conversations about reconciliation does not come up. It’s confusing to me how many signs she displays that there is still hope but how unwilling she is to talk about it. I mentioned to her yesterday about it being cruel that she won’t cut the last thread and end it but also lashes out at me when I try to stitch something back together. She got angry and said it’s always black and white with me and asked why can’t I just let that final thread hang there and see what happens.
Yea that isn't the reason it was just something my sister or family said to him the last time we talked about it I don't want to get married because of that at all he doesn't either I don't think
She's making the same amount of money as him right now, though. If she wants a lifestyle beyond her own current means, why isn't she making an effort to push for a raise, or switch jobs, or go back to school for a higher-paying job? Even if this is about “having different dreams,” the fact remains that she seems to think it's OP's job to fulfill them, and not herself.
Did you ever experience something similar with your partner? Was there ever a problem with their drinking? Is there anything else I should know? I don't know much about his brain injury with the exception of the fact that he should not drink and that his behavior is more impulsive than it was, but normally, when he's sober, you can't really even tell that something has happened to him.
Tell him to drop it, end of conversation. You need this time to remain sane and grounded so he just needs to accept it. If he wants to plan excursions on other weekends that you're available then fine but he has to plan and execute, not drop it in your lap.
You’ve only been together for two months. Chances are she wanted out but didn’t know how so she found a stupid reason. Just move on with your life.
I think that if I gave her space she would slowly start to talk,open up emotionally and eventually want to work things out. Space to her seems to mean talking about getting back together. She will hang out and spend time with me. She calls me and messages me. But the space she wants is a place where the pressure of these conversations about reconciliation does not come up. It’s confusing to me how many signs she displays that there is still hope but how unwilling she is to talk about it. I mentioned to her yesterday about it being cruel that she won’t cut the last thread and end it but also lashes out at me when I try to stitch something back together. She got angry and said it’s always black and white with me and asked why can’t I just let that final thread hang there and see what happens.
The girl IS your sister. No matter if you tell your mother , your sister isn't to blame .
Or people just have different windows of tolerance or cope with stress definitely.
In that case maybe don't date the guy with full blown untreated OCD.
Yea that isn't the reason it was just something my sister or family said to him the last time we talked about it I don't want to get married because of that at all he doesn't either I don't think
Oh my god have some self respect and break up
She's making the same amount of money as him right now, though. If she wants a lifestyle beyond her own current means, why isn't she making an effort to push for a raise, or switch jobs, or go back to school for a higher-paying job? Even if this is about “having different dreams,” the fact remains that she seems to think it's OP's job to fulfill them, and not herself.
Did you ever experience something similar with your partner? Was there ever a problem with their drinking? Is there anything else I should know? I don't know much about his brain injury with the exception of the fact that he should not drink and that his behavior is more impulsive than it was, but normally, when he's sober, you can't really even tell that something has happened to him.
Tell him to drop it, end of conversation. You need this time to remain sane and grounded so he just needs to accept it. If he wants to plan excursions on other weekends that you're available then fine but he has to plan and execute, not drop it in your lap.
OP you need to clear things up. Is he gonna wear a full on costume, or a suit with a superhero tie, handkerchief, or socks? There's a huge difference.
Why is this man so desperate to lock you down and tie himself to you for the rest of your lives via a child you’re not ready for