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So you let her walk all over your trust. You stick around because you're mentally mature? I think you have dependency issues you need to work thru. The level of disrespect she has shown you warrants complete disregard for her feelings In Your time of pain. Love yourself first guy
I would do the “hey I’m interested” thing but idk it kind of spoils the flirting phase a bit for me like that’s the fun part. But I guess it’s worth it if I’m going to avoid him from now on if I don’t
You are obsessing you’re thinking and observing over every little thing and she’s out there, with him not thinking about you. It is a major mental leap to act as if she’s on a self destructive spiral because she’s not with you. Let go. You shouldn’t be monitoring her underwear that’s crazy. Your concerns sound paternal, it’s actually not your business it’s hers.
Nobody said you didn’t let her express herself her doing different things is because she’s got an interest in it, the energy for it. She didn’t whilst married, she got in a rut.
Exactly. This should have been one of the first questions he asked hisself. “If my girl was still living with someone she slept with (and their partner) multiple times, how would I feel?” OP seems really immature. Like they want no negative consequences for past actions.
The guy is being honest about how he's feeling, don't trash him for it.
It's one thing to be casual fwb and different to love them and develop jealousy or other emotions, he also talks about values, which you don't just know without dating for a while.
OP I'd suggest sit down and talk about the values being incompatible for a romantic relationship.
Holy shit, dump his ass NOW! He is a selfish, manipulative, lowlife asshole. No amount of therapy will ever fix him or your relationship, it would be a complete waste of time. Talk to your friends And family if you want – and tell him to F*** off! Staying with him is the worst thing you could possibly do; you would be making sure that your life will be absolutely miserable.
Worst case scenario after leaving him – if you don’t find another partner, you can have a kid and a dog by yourself. I guarantee you will be much happier than if you stayed with him. Please, take care of yourself and get out of this toxic situation.
You are abused. Leave her and seek help, either your friends or therapy.
Alse, the way you delay with your ex 2 years age it is one of the best and mature ways to deal with those situations. She is totally crazy to demand from you that you will cut any ties with anyone, only because she is insecure or jealous.
I'm so sorry it is happening to you. I wish you all the strength to leave this ABUSER.
Its seems that OP did try to comunicate that for 3 days and things kept being the same wich made her get drunk and talk to her male friend about it. At this point maybe they need couples counseling
Just gonna say this: It really sucks to be asked this question and pressed on this question by a partner. Most of us aren't the ideal body, beauty, whatever. He could lie and make you feel better but you'd probably just assume he was lying. He sounds like he's just trying to be realistic, which maybe isn't as romantic as he could be, but being realistic in a relationship is okay! And he's not saying it to hurt you, he's only saying it when you force it out of him which really isn't fair. It sounds like he finds you attractive! But I don't really know if the gym is where you build “curves” so that's kinda funny
you can always buy her a shitty present if you have doubts about your gifts, like a vacuum cleaner nozzle. if you don't get anything better, take back those packages and give her the vacuum cleaner nozzle. Declare loudly – sorry it was a misshap and Switch labels! give the diamond earrings to grandpa instead! Id love to see you pill this of with a straight face
I meant inheritance in a more general, generational-wide issue with when one generation is materially considerably better off than the other – this is a problem that most young people are facing in one sense or another – not meant to imply you will inherit, as in this instance, the wedding is the inheritance.
I’m not going to be getting anything myself – but I’ve still faced this issue (indirectly) via previous partners’ parent’s attempts to control them specifically through the medium of paying for a wedding.
I also get that it’s tough for them – boomers’ identities are wrapped up in either being the “original rebels” (which is nonsense) or see themselves as the last bastion of the established order, and that makes seeing Millennials being actively more rebellious/different to them very hard to accept – the classic issue of ego, combined with self-perception means you only need to use “young” as a pejorative once, and they’re instantly on board.
It’s why “millennials killed X” articles do so well – it feeds into their identity narrative, it’s just reinforcing an already-existing position. Add to that a fear of technology and you can understand why the world looks terrifying to them.
None of that justifies this awful behavior – at all – but it does help the mental health to understand why they are the way they are (even if it doesn’t help practically).
Best of luck to you – unfortunately I do think it’s a rock or a hard place scenario. They will hold it over your head like a Sword of Damocles, so the best bet might be to grit your teeth and bare it for a short while, and take the power back when you can.
It's not accidental, he's acting the same way he did last time he attempted to cheat. He's a cheater and will eventually follow through on cheating on you.
I think you should talk to your therapist to work out your true feelings about this because it’s not something we can tell you.
The ex-friend telling you after all this time just to spite your wife is cruel.
I think your marriage can survive this if you want it to. Your wife does not sound like a serial cheater. She’s probably been carrying a lot of guilt about it over the years.
But right now, it’s your feelings that matter. Don’t do anything rash. Just figure out what you want and go from there.
you're saying it's none of the child's business that his parents sleep with other people? I think that's ridiculous. it naturally has an impact on the raising of the child and the family home just as any “type” of relationship would.
sharing details is one thing. not telling young children is another. but transparency with your own flesh and blood regarding the basic security of the family arrangement throughout their entire lifetime is necessary. OP's parents were neglectful and more concerned with sexual fulfillment than their child's well-being. that is fundamentally sad.
absolutely she should have told Scarlett! My issue is that it came out this late, not that the lie should be kept ongoing. The partner is out of line, I can only think they're acting irrationally because they are seeing their partner unravel firsthand.
Your wife told you she was raped and she killer said rapist and your response was to ignore it and comment on something that happened on the tv show? I hope for your sake this is a fake post.
I should also add that there is almost no chance she physically cheated because we were constantly together (and I mean constantly), but the thought that she may have been emotionally cheating is destroying me and my happy memories of the relationship. I just keep thinking “That thing we did was so perfect, but what if she wanted to be with this other guy during it”.
I imagine your new date may take issue with how close your relationship with this friend is. So maybe it is prudent to put up a boundary on some of the more physical stuff.
As for the friend, you already listed the possible situations. I guess the only way you might be able to find out for sure would be to have a serious and honest talk with your friend. You won't know what's in her head, unless you steal her diary or sth.
said another way, why the hell would anyone want to spend the rest of their life w someone they are not attracted to and have never been intimate with? – shit makes no sense
So this post is actually “we are completely different people”. Because by the sounds of it you have absolutely nothing in common. It's nice that you've been together for 3 years but people do drift apart, especially as you grow up out of being teens.
Talk about entitlement. Crazy that she’d ask you for anything after what she did, even crazier to make you out to be the bad guy for saying no. Block her.
Agreed. It seems to me your friends are being inconsiderate by adding on upgrades at your expense. And it’s crazy for you to have to pay for a premium hotel with no promise of a bed. Your tall friend doesn’t seem to be the compromising type, yet he expects YOU to compromise at every turn. You have become their discount coupon. If you made your own arrangements, you would be free to have things exactly as you want.
Being together in a relationship is one of those things that requires 2 people to say “Yes” to enthusiastically or there is no relationship. If even 1 of you disagrees there is no relationship.
Just leave him. Don’t let him know where you are and block him on all of your social media.
I’d love to hear further about your experience in Alaska if you wanna chat sometime!! But that sounds amazing & is exactly why I can’t wait to leave the lower 48 already lol. I keep to myself, had to mature quickly as a kid & realized soon enough how much people suck & if you just observe you often find out enough about a person to see if they’re worth your time or not. I’m 22 and don’t have any real friends or family & I’m obsessed with snow & have been independent for as long as I can remember. Plus the aurora lights?? Sign me up.
Exactly. And I would advise anyone faced with appealing a disability determination to consult with an attorney. What the insurers are not required to tell you and what most people do not know is that the evidentiary record closes when the insurer decides your appeal. That means (with some exceptions) no new evidence can be introduced in litigation if you have to sue the insurer. The court will make a decision based on the information before the insurer at the time it made its appeal decision.
Many people get pressured to file an appeal by the insurance company and their appeal is often little more than a letter saying “I disagree, I’m clearly disabled, please reconsider.” The insurer then denies the appeal saying you didn’t provide any new medical evidence. You’re then in court with your short letter against the medical report of a hired gun doctor who supports the insurer’s denial of benefits. In that situation, it’s much harder for an attorney to help you salvage the claim. I frequently have to turn down potential clients in this situation because they’ve effectively destroyed the value of their claim.
I also firmly believe that insurers are more aggressive with claimants who appeal without representation.
TLDR: hire an attorney to help you appeal. You may regret appealing on your own.
He's mentally unstable and owns a gun. Why do you need more than that? Your judgement for what is ok or acceptable + safe is totally broken. Your life is very much in danger.
You are not overreacting but you need to communicate to him soon, what your expectations are and call him out on „next time“. Especially if the relationship is new. It is absolutelly valid to make a big thing out of your 30th birthday.
Yeah, considering someone evil for living with their parents is completely deranged and detached from reality. There's no good reason to move out if you aren't planning to settle with your partner. Seems like an unnecessary expense in this crazy expensive day of living.
Well, she's ungrateful and has been told she's ungrateful before. I wouldn't reward that behavior. I'd return the gifts and not use the rest for a date. If you spend it on her, use it for something practical that isn't “fun” in anyway. That will free up some of her money that she can be as picky as she wants with.
If that’s the relationship you want then stick with it but if you can’t see yourself waiting for marriage to kiss her, much less sex, you have to think about moving on. This is more than religious, she has some really strange ideas about something she knows nothing about. Most first kisses aren’t magical, usually they are awkward and unsatisfying. The same is usually true of sex, with both of you not knowing what you’re doing it will likely be not very good.
She thinks her first kiss will be magical with the right guy. What happens when your first kiss is at the alter isn’t very good? Will she run away thinking she’s made a terrible mistake. I’m not going to tell you to break up. I would suggest you get some counseling, maybe someone at her church can set her straight.
So you let her walk all over your trust. You stick around because you're mentally mature? I think you have dependency issues you need to work thru. The level of disrespect she has shown you warrants complete disregard for her feelings In Your time of pain. Love yourself first guy
His angers issues are reasons to leave not to stay.
You have Stockholm syndrome
I would do the “hey I’m interested” thing but idk it kind of spoils the flirting phase a bit for me like that’s the fun part. But I guess it’s worth it if I’m going to avoid him from now on if I don’t
You are obsessing you’re thinking and observing over every little thing and she’s out there, with him not thinking about you. It is a major mental leap to act as if she’s on a self destructive spiral because she’s not with you. Let go. You shouldn’t be monitoring her underwear that’s crazy. Your concerns sound paternal, it’s actually not your business it’s hers.
Nobody said you didn’t let her express herself her doing different things is because she’s got an interest in it, the energy for it. She didn’t whilst married, she got in a rut.
Exactly. This should have been one of the first questions he asked hisself. “If my girl was still living with someone she slept with (and their partner) multiple times, how would I feel?” OP seems really immature. Like they want no negative consequences for past actions.
The guy is being honest about how he's feeling, don't trash him for it.
It's one thing to be casual fwb and different to love them and develop jealousy or other emotions, he also talks about values, which you don't just know without dating for a while.
OP I'd suggest sit down and talk about the values being incompatible for a romantic relationship.
Holy shit, dump his ass NOW! He is a selfish, manipulative, lowlife asshole. No amount of therapy will ever fix him or your relationship, it would be a complete waste of time. Talk to your friends And family if you want – and tell him to F*** off! Staying with him is the worst thing you could possibly do; you would be making sure that your life will be absolutely miserable.
Worst case scenario after leaving him – if you don’t find another partner, you can have a kid and a dog by yourself. I guarantee you will be much happier than if you stayed with him. Please, take care of yourself and get out of this toxic situation.
You are abused. Leave her and seek help, either your friends or therapy.
Alse, the way you delay with your ex 2 years age it is one of the best and mature ways to deal with those situations. She is totally crazy to demand from you that you will cut any ties with anyone, only because she is insecure or jealous.
I'm so sorry it is happening to you. I wish you all the strength to leave this ABUSER.
You are honestly pathetic
Its seems that OP did try to comunicate that for 3 days and things kept being the same wich made her get drunk and talk to her male friend about it. At this point maybe they need couples counseling
Just gonna say this: It really sucks to be asked this question and pressed on this question by a partner. Most of us aren't the ideal body, beauty, whatever. He could lie and make you feel better but you'd probably just assume he was lying. He sounds like he's just trying to be realistic, which maybe isn't as romantic as he could be, but being realistic in a relationship is okay! And he's not saying it to hurt you, he's only saying it when you force it out of him which really isn't fair. It sounds like he finds you attractive! But I don't really know if the gym is where you build “curves” so that's kinda funny
you can always buy her a shitty present if you have doubts about your gifts, like a vacuum cleaner nozzle. if you don't get anything better, take back those packages and give her the vacuum cleaner nozzle. Declare loudly – sorry it was a misshap and Switch labels! give the diamond earrings to grandpa instead! Id love to see you pill this of with a straight face
Youre welcome
I knew it was gonna be a shit show the moment it said the woman is 36 and you’re 23. My guy, cut your losses.
It is history and memories, and if he is anything like me 32M, then he probably don't even think about them being there, as a problem.
Also if he caved in and allowed your birds, I would not trust him to not just allow them to fly away or something…
Do not apologize. It will become a pattern.
She refused twice, stating her diet as the reason, you are mearly a supportive person that protected her from a rash impulse.
Talk it out if you want and explain she refused twice so you only bought enough for you to not waste money.
I meant inheritance in a more general, generational-wide issue with when one generation is materially considerably better off than the other – this is a problem that most young people are facing in one sense or another – not meant to imply you will inherit, as in this instance, the wedding is the inheritance.
I’m not going to be getting anything myself – but I’ve still faced this issue (indirectly) via previous partners’ parent’s attempts to control them specifically through the medium of paying for a wedding.
I also get that it’s tough for them – boomers’ identities are wrapped up in either being the “original rebels” (which is nonsense) or see themselves as the last bastion of the established order, and that makes seeing Millennials being actively more rebellious/different to them very hard to accept – the classic issue of ego, combined with self-perception means you only need to use “young” as a pejorative once, and they’re instantly on board.
It’s why “millennials killed X” articles do so well – it feeds into their identity narrative, it’s just reinforcing an already-existing position. Add to that a fear of technology and you can understand why the world looks terrifying to them.
None of that justifies this awful behavior – at all – but it does help the mental health to understand why they are the way they are (even if it doesn’t help practically).
Best of luck to you – unfortunately I do think it’s a rock or a hard place scenario. They will hold it over your head like a Sword of Damocles, so the best bet might be to grit your teeth and bare it for a short while, and take the power back when you can.
You can’t compromise on kids.
Oh boy, this could potentially be bad for ya bud.
In America you can be charged for back child support etc. I’m pretty sure.
Not sure if it’s the same everywhere.
Also you definitely have rights to the child if you want to be in the child’s life. I personally would.
Women think they have all the power and they do have a lot.
I can’t imagine a world where I don’t fully embrace being a father.
It's not accidental, he's acting the same way he did last time he attempted to cheat. He's a cheater and will eventually follow through on cheating on you.
I think you should talk to your therapist to work out your true feelings about this because it’s not something we can tell you.
The ex-friend telling you after all this time just to spite your wife is cruel.
I think your marriage can survive this if you want it to. Your wife does not sound like a serial cheater. She’s probably been carrying a lot of guilt about it over the years.
But right now, it’s your feelings that matter. Don’t do anything rash. Just figure out what you want and go from there.
you're saying it's none of the child's business that his parents sleep with other people? I think that's ridiculous. it naturally has an impact on the raising of the child and the family home just as any “type” of relationship would.
sharing details is one thing. not telling young children is another. but transparency with your own flesh and blood regarding the basic security of the family arrangement throughout their entire lifetime is necessary. OP's parents were neglectful and more concerned with sexual fulfillment than their child's well-being. that is fundamentally sad.
Agreed.
The WHOLE premise of Reddit is that the poster just has to put it all out there…
And the readers reply, and vote the best stuff up to the top. It's crowdsourced advice, news, education, and humor.
But it ONLY works if the post gives us SOMETHING to work with.
absolutely she should have told Scarlett! My issue is that it came out this late, not that the lie should be kept ongoing. The partner is out of line, I can only think they're acting irrationally because they are seeing their partner unravel firsthand.
JAG can't do shit to the spouse
Your wife told you she was raped and she killer said rapist and your response was to ignore it and comment on something that happened on the tv show? I hope for your sake this is a fake post.
I should also add that there is almost no chance she physically cheated because we were constantly together (and I mean constantly), but the thought that she may have been emotionally cheating is destroying me and my happy memories of the relationship. I just keep thinking “That thing we did was so perfect, but what if she wanted to be with this other guy during it”.
I imagine your new date may take issue with how close your relationship with this friend is. So maybe it is prudent to put up a boundary on some of the more physical stuff.
As for the friend, you already listed the possible situations. I guess the only way you might be able to find out for sure would be to have a serious and honest talk with your friend. You won't know what's in her head, unless you steal her diary or sth.
If you can't trust to get rid of her she can't get angry because you don't trust her after all she cheated
Well you won't know what to say until you know what your son says
But it doesn't seem like you had that much regret about what you did to your son since you agreed to the proposal the very next day
The choices you made affected your son and you both have to figure it out how to overcome this or you can keep staying apart
said another way, why the hell would anyone want to spend the rest of their life w someone they are not attracted to and have never been intimate with? – shit makes no sense
So this post is actually “we are completely different people”. Because by the sounds of it you have absolutely nothing in common. It's nice that you've been together for 3 years but people do drift apart, especially as you grow up out of being teens.
Talk about entitlement. Crazy that she’d ask you for anything after what she did, even crazier to make you out to be the bad guy for saying no. Block her.
Would you care to elaborate please?
Agreed. It seems to me your friends are being inconsiderate by adding on upgrades at your expense. And it’s crazy for you to have to pay for a premium hotel with no promise of a bed. Your tall friend doesn’t seem to be the compromising type, yet he expects YOU to compromise at every turn. You have become their discount coupon. If you made your own arrangements, you would be free to have things exactly as you want.
DONT copy or “save” anything; just take it to the police! wtf are you doing???
Being together in a relationship is one of those things that requires 2 people to say “Yes” to enthusiastically or there is no relationship. If even 1 of you disagrees there is no relationship.
Just leave him. Don’t let him know where you are and block him on all of your social media.
Bull. Shit.
Reddit is notorious for telling wives to divorce their husbands. Spare me the “opposite genders” line
I’d love to hear further about your experience in Alaska if you wanna chat sometime!! But that sounds amazing & is exactly why I can’t wait to leave the lower 48 already lol. I keep to myself, had to mature quickly as a kid & realized soon enough how much people suck & if you just observe you often find out enough about a person to see if they’re worth your time or not. I’m 22 and don’t have any real friends or family & I’m obsessed with snow & have been independent for as long as I can remember. Plus the aurora lights?? Sign me up.
you can bitch about that generalisation once the majority of sexual harassment isn’t done by men
This is quite kind of you, but I would give it at least another month before considering this.
Exactly. And I would advise anyone faced with appealing a disability determination to consult with an attorney. What the insurers are not required to tell you and what most people do not know is that the evidentiary record closes when the insurer decides your appeal. That means (with some exceptions) no new evidence can be introduced in litigation if you have to sue the insurer. The court will make a decision based on the information before the insurer at the time it made its appeal decision.
Many people get pressured to file an appeal by the insurance company and their appeal is often little more than a letter saying “I disagree, I’m clearly disabled, please reconsider.” The insurer then denies the appeal saying you didn’t provide any new medical evidence. You’re then in court with your short letter against the medical report of a hired gun doctor who supports the insurer’s denial of benefits. In that situation, it’s much harder for an attorney to help you salvage the claim. I frequently have to turn down potential clients in this situation because they’ve effectively destroyed the value of their claim.
I also firmly believe that insurers are more aggressive with claimants who appeal without representation.
TLDR: hire an attorney to help you appeal. You may regret appealing on your own.
He's mentally unstable and owns a gun. Why do you need more than that? Your judgement for what is ok or acceptable + safe is totally broken. Your life is very much in danger.
He is cheating on you. Dump his ass.
You are not overreacting but you need to communicate to him soon, what your expectations are and call him out on „next time“. Especially if the relationship is new. It is absolutelly valid to make a big thing out of your 30th birthday.
Yeah, considering someone evil for living with their parents is completely deranged and detached from reality. There's no good reason to move out if you aren't planning to settle with your partner. Seems like an unnecessary expense in this crazy expensive day of living.
Well, she's ungrateful and has been told she's ungrateful before. I wouldn't reward that behavior. I'd return the gifts and not use the rest for a date. If you spend it on her, use it for something practical that isn't “fun” in anyway. That will free up some of her money that she can be as picky as she wants with.
If that’s the relationship you want then stick with it but if you can’t see yourself waiting for marriage to kiss her, much less sex, you have to think about moving on. This is more than religious, she has some really strange ideas about something she knows nothing about. Most first kisses aren’t magical, usually they are awkward and unsatisfying. The same is usually true of sex, with both of you not knowing what you’re doing it will likely be not very good.
She thinks her first kiss will be magical with the right guy. What happens when your first kiss is at the alter isn’t very good? Will she run away thinking she’s made a terrible mistake. I’m not going to tell you to break up. I would suggest you get some counseling, maybe someone at her church can set her straight.