So sorry about your puppies, that is heartbreaking! ? I had the thought that I would want him to visit the cat still, I do think we could remain friends for that purpose.
I want to salvage our relationship DESPERATELY…but I have wanted that for so long that I'm burnt out. He keeps saying he'll do counseling but he won't. We are also having money problems…in that he is self employed but he just. wont. work. It's been almost a year since he has made more than $300 in a week. Last month, he made $300 TOTAL. So…as much as I love him and want to be with him forever…I can't keep financing his existence.
So you want to put yourself into a position where you make the same mistake your ex made 4 years ago?
Closure doesn't come from other people. It comes from within yourself. You're lying to yourself and your current relationship if you think meeting with your ex will achieve anything good.
Your husband is being generous in his patience, truthfully he hates the idea of you meeting with someone you still see as the “love of your life”. And given that you already forgave him and aren't holding any ill will towards this guy tells me you wouldn't mind if something more other than just meeting up were to happen.
This is a very bad idea. And if you truly love your husband, you'll ultimately decide against meeting up with your ex and ask him to never contact you again.
I think you should file for divorce and split custody. Your husband is frankly a pathetic excuse for human being, if the term can even apply, and you deserve better.
Your take away is that men over 10 years older are bad? Shouldn’t it be that men who lie and text others are bad? Or that you should consider the advice of others, when EVERYONE is telling you the same thing?
Women always claim vasectomies are reversible, but it’s misleading at best. Reversibility is a major gamble depending on a number of factors. Stop advocating for surgical procedures you don’t understand.
Yep, came here to say this and saw it was the only comment suggesting this. It’s his way of coping…. the baby didn’t really exist or it wasn’t even his.
I'm sorry to hear that you're going through such a difficult time. It sounds like you're dealing with a lot of challenging situations all at once, and it's understandable that you're feeling overwhelmed.
It's important to prioritize your own well-being and that of your future child. It's clear that your husband's behavior is causing you a great deal of stress and that he may not be the best partner for you at this time. It's worth considering whether it would be beneficial to take some time apart or seek counseling to try to work through these issues.
If you decide to continue the relationship, it's important to set clear boundaries and expectations for your husband's behavior. It's not acceptable for him to drive without a license or to neglect his hygiene, especially when you're pregnant. It's also important to address any problematic beliefs or behaviors he may have, such as his belief in animals' ability to speak human languages.
If you feel that your husband is not willing or able to change his behavior, it may be necessary to consider other options, such as separation or divorce. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and that of your child, and to seek support from family, friends, or a therapist as needed.
Ultimately, the decision of what to do is yours, and it's important to consider what will be best for you and your family in the long run.
I dmed him asking for her omeggle username , ill help her 'quit' ???
So sorry about your puppies, that is heartbreaking! ? I had the thought that I would want him to visit the cat still, I do think we could remain friends for that purpose.
I want to salvage our relationship DESPERATELY…but I have wanted that for so long that I'm burnt out. He keeps saying he'll do counseling but he won't. We are also having money problems…in that he is self employed but he just. wont. work. It's been almost a year since he has made more than $300 in a week. Last month, he made $300 TOTAL. So…as much as I love him and want to be with him forever…I can't keep financing his existence.
What will you do if he goes there anyway? Because unless there’s a consequence to him going, it’s not a boundary, it’s just a preference.
Btw, who has big breasted women on their lock screen anyway? Yikes!
How am I transferring the anxiety over? By like asking so much?
So you want to put yourself into a position where you make the same mistake your ex made 4 years ago?
Closure doesn't come from other people. It comes from within yourself. You're lying to yourself and your current relationship if you think meeting with your ex will achieve anything good.
Your husband is being generous in his patience, truthfully he hates the idea of you meeting with someone you still see as the “love of your life”. And given that you already forgave him and aren't holding any ill will towards this guy tells me you wouldn't mind if something more other than just meeting up were to happen.
This is a very bad idea. And if you truly love your husband, you'll ultimately decide against meeting up with your ex and ask him to never contact you again.
Screw her. Don’t make a decision based on her.
If you keep the baby just do better for your little girl.
I think you should file for divorce and split custody. Your husband is frankly a pathetic excuse for human being, if the term can even apply, and you deserve better.
Then you need to say ‘no’
Say that it’s a firm boundary- your wife cannot expect to have sex with people if you are not involved because you are not in an open relationship.
Say that it’s a firm boundary- you will not be having any sexual involvement that includes Ashley’s husband.
If she can’t accept this then your marriage is over.
How often do you see each other? What’s going on with the sex?
Your take away is that men over 10 years older are bad? Shouldn’t it be that men who lie and text others are bad? Or that you should consider the advice of others, when EVERYONE is telling you the same thing?
Not really sure you learned the lesson.
Women always claim vasectomies are reversible, but it’s misleading at best. Reversibility is a major gamble depending on a number of factors. Stop advocating for surgical procedures you don’t understand.
You don’t hear how messed up that is you are essentially a placeholder. Stating you have shortcomings is messed up then why is she with you?
And not for nothing you’ve been together a year it’s time to move on
Yep, came here to say this and saw it was the only comment suggesting this. It’s his way of coping…. the baby didn’t really exist or it wasn’t even his.
I'm sorry to hear that you're going through such a difficult time. It sounds like you're dealing with a lot of challenging situations all at once, and it's understandable that you're feeling overwhelmed.
It's important to prioritize your own well-being and that of your future child. It's clear that your husband's behavior is causing you a great deal of stress and that he may not be the best partner for you at this time. It's worth considering whether it would be beneficial to take some time apart or seek counseling to try to work through these issues.
If you decide to continue the relationship, it's important to set clear boundaries and expectations for your husband's behavior. It's not acceptable for him to drive without a license or to neglect his hygiene, especially when you're pregnant. It's also important to address any problematic beliefs or behaviors he may have, such as his belief in animals' ability to speak human languages.
If you feel that your husband is not willing or able to change his behavior, it may be necessary to consider other options, such as separation or divorce. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and that of your child, and to seek support from family, friends, or a therapist as needed.
Ultimately, the decision of what to do is yours, and it's important to consider what will be best for you and your family in the long run.