Great advice, thank you! Yeah I mean we don't talk every day, but we usually don't go more than 2 days without him reaching out. He mostly initiates. But I thought sending him a good morning hope you feel better text was a nice gesture if he is sick, and granted it wasn't a question warranting a response but I feel like he could've at least acknowledged and responded
You say the exact same shitty things he says about women to him about men for a week, including the except for you of course he is adding. Lets see how he likes it
This is a loaded problem. Based on what he did, some might see it as sexual misconduct, which would need to be reported to HR. From what it sounds like, his judgement was impaired enough which caused him to do something without your consent.
If a coworker had made an inappropriate pass at me, I would tell my SO. They have a right to know. However, if you think he's going to do something stupid, I'd maybe try to get ahead of it before telling him. If you think he's going to be supportive of you through this, then what's keeping you from telling him? If you think he's going to blow up at you and accuse you of cheating, is this a boyfriend worth having?
I'm really sorry this happened. I know you feel violated right now, and it's just making everything confusing. Again, if you feel like this was incredibly inappropriate, which I think it is, then please file a complaint with HR. This is most likely not the first time this guy has attempted something like this with a coworker on a work trip.
Tell a manager that you have a history with him and he makes you feel unsafe. Hopefully that's enough to get the guy banned from the store so you don't have to hid everytime he stops by
1: Not sure what country you’re in, but in the US you can just google and see that it’s a common problem. I think our cc debt levels just hit an all time high.
2: I told you this out of transparency because we are considering taking a next step in our relationship. I obviously know I made mistakes, I’m owning up to them, and I’ve become a better person even in the short time we’ve been dating. It was really hard to open up to you and honestly your negative reaction isn’t reinforcing my decision to do so. I’m perceiving a lot of judgment from you, and if that perception is incorrect please let me know. If it is accurate, it really makes me question this relationship and the person I am becoming interested in living with. Please stop.
3: if he doesn’t respect your boundaries, yes it’s a huge red flag.
There’s no magic solution. He’s obviously going to find someone else unless you see him. I would suggest that you may be seeing the wrong therapist if you can’t go out after a year with this one.
Great advice, thank you! Yeah I mean we don't talk every day, but we usually don't go more than 2 days without him reaching out. He mostly initiates. But I thought sending him a good morning hope you feel better text was a nice gesture if he is sick, and granted it wasn't a question warranting a response but I feel like he could've at least acknowledged and responded
You say the exact same shitty things he says about women to him about men for a week, including the except for you of course he is adding. Lets see how he likes it
I could've sworn this same exact post was on here within the last like 3 days. You can try to find that one and see what advice was given to that guy.
This is a loaded problem. Based on what he did, some might see it as sexual misconduct, which would need to be reported to HR. From what it sounds like, his judgement was impaired enough which caused him to do something without your consent.
If a coworker had made an inappropriate pass at me, I would tell my SO. They have a right to know. However, if you think he's going to do something stupid, I'd maybe try to get ahead of it before telling him. If you think he's going to be supportive of you through this, then what's keeping you from telling him? If you think he's going to blow up at you and accuse you of cheating, is this a boyfriend worth having?
I'm really sorry this happened. I know you feel violated right now, and it's just making everything confusing. Again, if you feel like this was incredibly inappropriate, which I think it is, then please file a complaint with HR. This is most likely not the first time this guy has attempted something like this with a coworker on a work trip.
If you want kids move on, he has been clear he isn't interested in them
Tell a manager that you have a history with him and he makes you feel unsafe. Hopefully that's enough to get the guy banned from the store so you don't have to hid everytime he stops by
1: Not sure what country you’re in, but in the US you can just google and see that it’s a common problem. I think our cc debt levels just hit an all time high.
2: I told you this out of transparency because we are considering taking a next step in our relationship. I obviously know I made mistakes, I’m owning up to them, and I’ve become a better person even in the short time we’ve been dating. It was really hard to open up to you and honestly your negative reaction isn’t reinforcing my decision to do so. I’m perceiving a lot of judgment from you, and if that perception is incorrect please let me know. If it is accurate, it really makes me question this relationship and the person I am becoming interested in living with. Please stop.
3: if he doesn’t respect your boundaries, yes it’s a huge red flag.
There’s no magic solution. He’s obviously going to find someone else unless you see him. I would suggest that you may be seeing the wrong therapist if you can’t go out after a year with this one.
Boundaries are not about what other people do. It’s about what YOU do.
-signed a therapist