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Date: October 10, 2022
P.s. you're insane, have a nice day
Be clear and tell him not to talk. At a boundary.
Yes, as hard as it might be to hear. If you care about someone, and they decide it’s best for them to leave, you have to put their needs and wants first. It’s not about you. You messed up, and the best way to take accountability is doing what she’s asking.
Girlfriend, I hate to be the person to say it, but her talking about her negative experience of you is not her being bad to you! I know it feels awful to have someone speaking about something you'd rather everyone forgot, but that's a natural consequence of your own actions. And this needs to be brought up in counseling. This idea that others shouldnt talk about others poor behavior and that doing so is bad is bogus. If you wanted her to speak more kindly about you, you should have behaved better. It's a hard pill to swallow, but boyfriends Sister did nothing wrong- you did. And she's allowed to have an opinion and to talk about it with her peers so she can process the events of her life. Get over yourself.
Her inviting you to a drinking event when her experience of you is as a passed out drunk is not anything more than her recognizing you are 21, like to party, and she's having one- an event where it would be appropriate to get sloshed (but its never appropriate to get black out/pass out drunk).
I agree you shouldn't go- but not because of any slight you perceive from your bfs Sister. You shouldn't go because you're working on sobriety and you're not prepared to be in that environment. However, being sober means accepting that others don't have your issues with alcohol and allowing them to still parktake. If you can't be witness to it and not drink, don't attend.
All the people saying her BF should be more supportive- no. There's a line. He can support her decision not to go and still go himself. Being supportive of your partners sobriety doesn't mean they control yours too. Being sober is learning to be around others who drink/have had a few drinks, and still choosing not to drink. She's going to have to learn this skill and who better than with an intimate partner who comes home from a family party having had a few?
Your recovery is 100% on you. Figure it out. But stop projecting that everyone is being mean/unsupportive/gossiping about you. The amount it's actually happening is much less than you think it is because your perception is negative towards yourself.
If your life goals are that much of a mismatch, I don't think you should continue any further if she really does not want children. On the other hand, you wouldn't be having kids any time soon if you have any sense in your head, anyway.
Bottom line is if your gf is serious about not wanting children, it is obvious that your relationship does not have a long-term future. Breaking up is inevitable as there will be pain in store for both of you if you continue until it is time to have children.
I do agree that you should not go to the party. Congratulations on 86 days, but that's not very long to have built up new coping mechanisms. My husband has now been sober for 40 years. We can easily go to a party where there is drinking. He might get frustrated when the real drunk idiots start to “perform” but other than that he's fine attending. That was not the case when he was newly sober. The temptation can be too much — it hasn't been long enough.
Since she doesn't know you quit drinking, you need to tell her when you decline, in case this was her reaching out to make amends.
Keep the bed get a new girlfriend
That’s bullshit especially if husband isn’t here and the one dealing with him. I should be able to kick someone out of my own home. Guess it’s to a hotel then. So if my car won’t start by this evening guess it’s husband giving us a ride or calling a taxi (though not sure how that works we are in a super rural hamlet of 169 people… do taxis come out to places like that?)
That's what I was going to ask
That's what I was going to ask
Sounds like you need to break up.
She ain't it, you weren't invited for a reason her ex may be tryna sneak back in. And she couldn't care less
In the back of my mind I thought about that, but no she’s not trapped.
He is feeling guilty because he offered to drive her home and she declined and drove herself home. If they were having an illicit affair wouldn’t they jump on some alone time together?
This woman cares for your children and in some way probably has become an extension of your family. Everyone reacts differently to trauma. Background; I am a trauma ED/ICU nurse and have seen folks react in every way imaginable. There is no right or wrong way.
Your wording comes off very judgmental and harsh instead of having empathy for her and how your husband clearly feels responsible. To airlift someone to a higher level of trauma center is A BIG DEAL. She was in the ICU and required surgery. It just sounds like you have unresolved resentment towards your husband and maybe some jealousy going on?
There is honestly 0 point in a degree if your not even knowing what you want, just pissing money away. But at the same time lack of motive in career is a problem. There is no easy answer here but staying with someone hoping they will change never ends well, need to be ok with who you get with from the start.
I was nervous meeting my husband's Mom, but I never made a sexual joke. Seems he just has no filter and tries to blame it on nerves.
Racism runs rampant amongst asian but mainly they want to preserve their culture
Well girl- what don’t you find sexist and disgusting here??
First and foremost- regardless of gender you should be raising your children with the same values.
Yes each child should care about good hygiene- but there’s no need to teach your little girl the her looks = her worth. That’s sexist as FUCK. That WILL give her a complex. Do you want your little girl to have an eating disorder? Do you want her to hate herself?
Looks are NOT the most important thing to a man. Both genders need attraction but it’s not like looks is the only thing that matters and that ONLY women need to look good. That’s bullshit.
Him saying the man CHOOSES the wife is also old school BS sexist trash. More and more women are choosing not to get married. WHY? Because men SUCK in general and women have finally been empowered enough to not have to settle for sucky men. That’s a FACT. Studies prove this. Marriage rates are down. The HAPPIEST demographic is single women without kids. Men are having less sex than ever. Facts facts facts. Your husband needs to face reality here.
So the lesson for both children – is making sure they both do EQUAL CHORES AROUND THE HOUSE. Teach them BOTH how to load the dishwasher, do laundry, mow the lawn. Teach them how to be a good partner—-and these lessons really apply to both kids.
Teach them both emotional intelligence. What do we do when we are sad? How do we be a good friend? What do we do when someone’s mad at us? How do we handle conflict?
I’d read up on gentle parenting. I’d also read some self help books for you. And therapy if you feel like saving this relationship.
You pushed her into it by asking multiple times when she said no multiple times. Exhausting her into saying yes isn't the same as her enthusiastically consenting. ?
I hope to God no one would refer to their partner getting raped as them cheating. Unfortunately there are those who probs would…
I noticed you didn’t mention the time of birth which I’m sorry is a major red flag for me
I wish we had more hobbies we could do together than just me gaming with him to feel closer.
Not the issue but aiiii
Shark lawyer, nail down the custody agreement watertight, share no emotions with this guy, keep it strictly business.
He’s showing he is emotionally manipulative – and that won’t change for the sake of your child. So best to just keep it all businesslike and use that shark lawyer to best effect.
Op, has any other ex demanded these things? Have you ever avoided an entire town just because you broke up with someone?
“I know exactly where I stand now.”
100% this. I was trying to work out how to word what I wanted to say and struggling, but you have done it perfectly.
Community dick. You don’t want that.
Community dick. You don’t want that.
I mean, I'm bi, if my partner had an issue with me seeing friends I could hypothetically find attractive, they would freak out every time I see *anyone*.
So yes, I am not comfortable with that sort of mentality. Either your trust your partner, or you don't date them. You can't stop someone from cheating if they want to by trying to control their social life anyway, there will always be opportunities for them to be unfaithful.
You're still going with spamming this?
But also, feeling that way is super valid! Its definitely troubling. Do you trust them? And love them? I think those are two things that will really make your relationship work (imo)
Stop doing shit for this man.
He is 41 years old, he KNOWS chores have to get done, he knows how to adult, and he has cracked the code in not doing them by making you think you need him to “understand” that he needs to contribute.
He clearly gets it, because he did do the dishes to then be able to ask for a homecooked meal. Make yourself food, do your own laundry, keep your own stuff clean. Tell him this can't continue and if he isn't going to clean up, you aren't going to cook for him, and that he needs to be doing 50% of ALL the chores, and no, you shouldn't have to remind him, no you shouldn't have to bribe him, and no, you certainly don't need to sit him down and explain to him why chores are a things that people do.
Is it really a “waste” because you don’t get married. Seems like she was only in it for one thing
I got married to a woman who didn't go to an Ivy League school. But at the end of the day, anecdotes aren't going to be helpful. Everyone's different. Some people might focus entirely on a school. Some won't.
I cared far more about the bigger picture and, in addition to the other pieces of overall compatibility, what someone's doing with their life whether they got a degree or not, regardless of the school they attended (or didn't).
So let's talk about you and assume you went to a state school. What do you do?
Thank you for the non-judgmental and non-condescending response. I really appreciate that.
I did ask her out to an event during one of our workouts, to which she gleefully said yes to with no hesitation and even marked it on her calendar/notes. This is what confuses me. She is very communicative and touchy (and as stated would let me touch or poke her butt and that normally is off limits) when we are working out together but would not initiate contact throughout the day. We workout together everyday by the way and workout in the afternoon.
I think it’s right to tell him if you were a sex worker.
Train. Wreck.
I noticed a lot of people are digging in hard with you and I want to address that.
Your instincts and your concerns are valid. If you feel uncomfortable, it's because there is a reason to feel uncomfortable. Trust your gut.
Now, this is your partner's responsibility to insist you either come along or not go. The fact that he isn't throwing down for you here means that your instinct is correct.
Now that doesn't mean he is consciously intending to cheat or anything, but he is making a poor choice here and that choice itself erodes trust because he is putting his relationship with another woman as a priority over his relationship with you.
When faced with a similar situation, my husband sat down and talked to me. We worked through options of how to navigate me feeling safe while him still maintaining his female relationships. He was able to keep some, but the one friendship where she was too attached to him ended up ending because the boundaries didn't allow her to use him as a surrogate boyfriend.
In any case, this isn't on you.
This is on your partner to figure out and take action to make things work, and not discount your feelings which are based in reality.
Does screenshots of text conversations count? Also, should I get a receipt of everything I bought for my child over the years, in case they try to falsely accuse me in court of not buying anything for her?
Here’s the thing, cheating is cheating. It doesn’t matter what they have or don’t have.
All she had to do was communicate and maybe something would have happened that was mutually agreeable (per your own words) between you both, but she took the route of telling you she was drunk and was enjoying it. So if she is in this situation again and hanging out with friends and guys, will it be the random guy next time because she is drunk?
Can you trust here again? Are you going to stay up all night questioning what she is doing now? What do you want to do?
Im confused. Are u looking to marry & have kids with him or break up? Did u try to discuss it b4 or just waiting for him to bring it up?