Take the positives from the relationship and it's not like you've not been trying, you're giving what you got and even then if it doesn't work, I'm afraid things only work bilaterally.
I've done all of that, at least talking to some of my exes, but not outright flirting. I've talked to my kindergarten girlfriend for 66 years. I never hidden any of it from my wife though.
My wife and I have a rule, we can talk to whoever we want, see who we want to see, and if ever one of us decide we would rather be with someone else, the door is open. The rule is nuclear, you are either in or out. You work on your marriage or you don't. It works for us.
It's completely understandable for you to feel uncomfortable about your girlfriend sharing a locker room with naked men. It's important for everyone to have boundaries and respect for each other's personal space, and it seems like your girlfriend is not respecting your boundaries or the boundaries of the other men in the locker room by not using the women's locker room.
It's also important to consider the power dynamics at play here. Your girlfriend is in a position of privilege as a cisgender woman in a locker room full of men. It may not be a big deal to her, but it could be intimidating or uncomfortable for the men in the locker room to have a woman present while they are naked.
I would suggest having a conversation with your girlfriend about how this situation makes you feel and try to come to a compromise. Maybe she could use the separate women's locker room or at least ensure that she is fully dressed before entering the main locker room. It's important to respect each other's boundaries and make sure everyone is comfortable in any shared space.
You say “Yes, I agree you're a fuckup. You choked me, your gd, to the poi t I lost consciousness. That is trashy as fuck, beyond cruel, incredibly abusive, and you should be deeply ashamed of yourself. If I had called the cops you would be in prison. Be grateful I didn't, the next girl probably will, and if I get asked to testify, I will. STAY AWAY FROM ME..
Even having diarrhea or vomiting an hour or so can reduce effectiveness. All kinds of things can fuck up the efficacy rate of the pill. OP's boyfriend is just being smart.
Dude!! You better stay warm on the couch and start earning her trust back!! You cheated on her man!! What do you think is going to happen. What you did is a relationship breaker!!!
You majorly screwed up!! Let what you did sink in. Quit whining and work on keeping her.
You cheated on her!!! She may still kick you to the curb! You could lose your family! And your worried about the couch!! LMMFAO!!
Damn dude. You got some serious growing up to do!!
I know that curiosity has to be burning, but I also suspect his family is trying to protect you.
What would you do if he was to, say, blame you for his death, would you really want to know that? Even if it was written while he wasn’t in a right state of mind and didn’t mean it, something like that would be really hard to process.
I really don’t think anything in that note can help you feel better about the situation. Some things you can’t unsee, you need to let this go and process your own feelings.
Just know, no matter what, this was out of your control and it is not your fault.
It sounds like you have no time for a relationship right now. This is okay, but have you considered breaking up and just be single until you've finished school and have more time?
It’s not unusual. If you browse r/parenting and r/daddit, you’ll see lots of posts of couples with babies who only have sex a handful of times a year in the first few years with a baby.
Do keep trying to make it happen, but don’t feel guilty if it doesn’t. It’s just a tough time right now and you guys have to be patient.
See if you can get a sitter for an afternoon once a month or so to have some personal time together, that may help.
Yes, but I was honest about it and told her. She would still keep saying it’s a girl when out with someone, until just 2 days ago told me it was always this guy she’s been talking with / meeting non stop.
He admits to being an outside to his own family in support of his brother?
Like it's “Her (and the baby ofc) vs the world” and bruh is just a citizen of earth? Not a We, not an Us to take on life. No partnership or ownership of the issue to speak of?
It's her and that baby vs Dad and the rest. Idk how he sees that as a her problem? Lol that's a YOU problem bro. Your wife doesn't trust you as her biggest fan. Good thing your podcast brother probably has a spare couch in the studio to sleep on when you tell her she's hormonal and he's taken the brothers side in this lol.
I was trying my best to make it work but I just cant, just worried for her, i think she would be so happy with someone more like her, why isnt she adancing, she says all the man are awful so she stays single, how can i help her change her mindset?
Thank you for your response. Here is another example: we both do a combat sport on Thursday nights in a club and do trainings together also. Last Thursday I was up against a new girl for the first time and I didn’t “set up correctly” so he came over and moved my body into the correct position then had a go at me about it. I then got annoyed for his controllingness but even more so his anger and he claimed I was being a victim. I am not against being corrected but not in a “you should have fxxxg known this ahhh it’s a big deal” kind of way. Just show me/tell me in a normal tone and let’s carry on. He thinks I just can’t take criticism and perhaps it comes off that way but really I just can’t stand his impatient, rude approach and it’s not getting through.
Well yeah thats obvious. Idk we'll see how i feel in the morning. Also I got some people here calling me toxic and a nice guy? She literally told me I'm the nicest boyfriend shes ever had and that no one has made her feel as happy as I have…
This unfortunately sounds like the typical 30 year old woman who never had kids and regrets it. This is creepy and if the attachment to your daughter is broken or she feels threatened, something dangerous can happen to your daughter or you. Involve your Lawyer ASAP.
Your relationship sounds very low quality, you can do better than this. Don't just consign yourself to this drudgery if you don't like it, life can be a lot better. There are people out there who would value you a lot more than this (and you least of all should be valuing yourself more). It sounds like you've got more of an arrangement than a relationship, and not a particularly good one at that.
Yea there is really nothing else to be done. I would have a come to Jesus talk with her that 1. You love her. 2. She is affecting your professional life. 3. You’d never cheat. 4. Being jealous isn’t a good look and she need to get over it. 5. Women v women is tacky and gross. She’s obviously insecure. But ask if there is anything in reason to help her, but you tolerate negative comments about your assistant
It is a deal breaker problem. How long you take to accept it, is how long you keep wasting time.
You can’t have a relationship without comprehension and empathy. He’s not worried about you enough to help you, especially when it wouldn’t hurt him at all.
So you guys are in a gay relationship right? I read the last one too and still think yall gay af and thats okay guys just admit yall love eachother and enjoy life already geez kids these days.
Take the positives from the relationship and it's not like you've not been trying, you're giving what you got and even then if it doesn't work, I'm afraid things only work bilaterally.
Maybe tell him to stop feeding the geese for time being. Might help
I've done all of that, at least talking to some of my exes, but not outright flirting. I've talked to my kindergarten girlfriend for 66 years. I never hidden any of it from my wife though.
My wife and I have a rule, we can talk to whoever we want, see who we want to see, and if ever one of us decide we would rather be with someone else, the door is open. The rule is nuclear, you are either in or out. You work on your marriage or you don't. It works for us.
But you come from a colonizer country right? You're disgusting lol
There's the truth of it, what a scumbag. Love when they leave all the actually important stuff out of their posts to paint themselves the victim.
I wouldn't want to fuck someone who was still in love with his ex either.
You said it razzledazzle
Hes trying to make you feel bad so you won't say no to him again
Dump him. You don’t need angry fappers in your life.
It's completely understandable for you to feel uncomfortable about your girlfriend sharing a locker room with naked men. It's important for everyone to have boundaries and respect for each other's personal space, and it seems like your girlfriend is not respecting your boundaries or the boundaries of the other men in the locker room by not using the women's locker room.
It's also important to consider the power dynamics at play here. Your girlfriend is in a position of privilege as a cisgender woman in a locker room full of men. It may not be a big deal to her, but it could be intimidating or uncomfortable for the men in the locker room to have a woman present while they are naked.
I would suggest having a conversation with your girlfriend about how this situation makes you feel and try to come to a compromise. Maybe she could use the separate women's locker room or at least ensure that she is fully dressed before entering the main locker room. It's important to respect each other's boundaries and make sure everyone is comfortable in any shared space.
So much projection here. I'm sorry for your loss.
You say “Yes, I agree you're a fuckup. You choked me, your gd, to the poi t I lost consciousness. That is trashy as fuck, beyond cruel, incredibly abusive, and you should be deeply ashamed of yourself. If I had called the cops you would be in prison. Be grateful I didn't, the next girl probably will, and if I get asked to testify, I will. STAY AWAY FROM ME..
I’m currently in counselling, I haven’t got him on any socials, I just wish it’d stop hurting or at least I was angry
Dump her. She is making the fact she messed up bigtime about her and her feelings.
what I should do
Do not marry this man.
This will not get better. The fact he's 37 and 8 years your senior and still doesn't know this. Is a huge red flag.
You have a parasite, not a partner.
This was how I was going to reply but with just “Jesus Christ!!!!”
You said you weren’t 100 percent sure you wouldn’t keep the baby. How can you possibly take this as a trust issue?
Even having diarrhea or vomiting an hour or so can reduce effectiveness. All kinds of things can fuck up the efficacy rate of the pill. OP's boyfriend is just being smart.
Why are you still with this man?
Tell her!!
Dude!! You better stay warm on the couch and start earning her trust back!! You cheated on her man!! What do you think is going to happen. What you did is a relationship breaker!!!
You majorly screwed up!! Let what you did sink in. Quit whining and work on keeping her.
You cheated on her!!! She may still kick you to the curb! You could lose your family! And your worried about the couch!! LMMFAO!!
Damn dude. You got some serious growing up to do!!
How many children do you have at 21….? And you seriously expect her to just invite you back in after you cheated?
I know that curiosity has to be burning, but I also suspect his family is trying to protect you.
What would you do if he was to, say, blame you for his death, would you really want to know that? Even if it was written while he wasn’t in a right state of mind and didn’t mean it, something like that would be really hard to process.
I really don’t think anything in that note can help you feel better about the situation. Some things you can’t unsee, you need to let this go and process your own feelings.
Just know, no matter what, this was out of your control and it is not your fault.
It sounds like you have no time for a relationship right now. This is okay, but have you considered breaking up and just be single until you've finished school and have more time?
That's just his natural musk. Enjoy the pheromones
It’s not unusual. If you browse r/parenting and r/daddit, you’ll see lots of posts of couples with babies who only have sex a handful of times a year in the first few years with a baby.
Do keep trying to make it happen, but don’t feel guilty if it doesn’t. It’s just a tough time right now and you guys have to be patient.
See if you can get a sitter for an afternoon once a month or so to have some personal time together, that may help.
This is sex trafficking
Yes, but I was honest about it and told her. She would still keep saying it’s a girl when out with someone, until just 2 days ago told me it was always this guy she’s been talking with / meeting non stop.
Hang out alone together at one of your homes. Alone. Be very flirty. See if something happens.
He admits to being an outside to his own family in support of his brother?
Like it's “Her (and the baby ofc) vs the world” and bruh is just a citizen of earth? Not a We, not an Us to take on life. No partnership or ownership of the issue to speak of?
It's her and that baby vs Dad and the rest. Idk how he sees that as a her problem? Lol that's a YOU problem bro. Your wife doesn't trust you as her biggest fan. Good thing your podcast brother probably has a spare couch in the studio to sleep on when you tell her she's hormonal and he's taken the brothers side in this lol.
Bragging how you couldn’t be polite and angry shows you have little emotional control. Which is most of the unhappy responses. No shock.
Everyone has to take responsibility for their emotions and not let them dictate poor decisions.
She does need to handle her emotions and handle her expectations.
Life sometimes has difficult situations and ending everything isn’t always the best option. It’s a tough to accept.
I agree. She sounds awful.
🙁
yeah…
I was trying my best to make it work but I just cant, just worried for her, i think she would be so happy with someone more like her, why isnt she adancing, she says all the man are awful so she stays single, how can i help her change her mindset?
Choose you. Please.
Thank you for your response. Here is another example: we both do a combat sport on Thursday nights in a club and do trainings together also. Last Thursday I was up against a new girl for the first time and I didn’t “set up correctly” so he came over and moved my body into the correct position then had a go at me about it. I then got annoyed for his controllingness but even more so his anger and he claimed I was being a victim. I am not against being corrected but not in a “you should have fxxxg known this ahhh it’s a big deal” kind of way. Just show me/tell me in a normal tone and let’s carry on. He thinks I just can’t take criticism and perhaps it comes off that way but really I just can’t stand his impatient, rude approach and it’s not getting through.
Well yeah thats obvious. Idk we'll see how i feel in the morning. Also I got some people here calling me toxic and a nice guy? She literally told me I'm the nicest boyfriend shes ever had and that no one has made her feel as happy as I have…
This unfortunately sounds like the typical 30 year old woman who never had kids and regrets it. This is creepy and if the attachment to your daughter is broken or she feels threatened, something dangerous can happen to your daughter or you. Involve your Lawyer ASAP.
How many times are you going to post this?
Your relationship sounds very low quality, you can do better than this. Don't just consign yourself to this drudgery if you don't like it, life can be a lot better. There are people out there who would value you a lot more than this (and you least of all should be valuing yourself more). It sounds like you've got more of an arrangement than a relationship, and not a particularly good one at that.
Yea there is really nothing else to be done. I would have a come to Jesus talk with her that 1. You love her. 2. She is affecting your professional life. 3. You’d never cheat. 4. Being jealous isn’t a good look and she need to get over it. 5. Women v women is tacky and gross. She’s obviously insecure. But ask if there is anything in reason to help her, but you tolerate negative comments about your assistant
There is no aside from the money.
It’s like… aside from anger issues….
It is a deal breaker problem. How long you take to accept it, is how long you keep wasting time.
You can’t have a relationship without comprehension and empathy. He’s not worried about you enough to help you, especially when it wouldn’t hurt him at all.
Thank you. This is about as practical and respectful as I was hoping for starting this thread. Thank you ever so much.
So you guys are in a gay relationship right? I read the last one too and still think yall gay af and thats okay guys just admit yall love eachother and enjoy life already geez kids these days.