“Why don’t you just divorce me so you can be single like your friends”
Out of fucking pocket, lost his monkey ass mind, I would’ve had to stop myself from sliding across the table and slapping the shit out of him for a wild ass comment like that
As they say when one marries they marry the family. This enabling has been going one for many many years. That’s hard for people to stop doing especially when they continue to feel sorry for someone. Add in it being family, it’s a high percentage they’ll always let that blind them to the fact of what a loser the person is. The fact that your wife clams up when confronted by things is also a big wedge. Since communication is one of the top factors in a healthy relationship. This dude has gotten used to being enabled all his life in spite of his situation of being a rape child, which is a terrible thing in it self. But he’s not going to change now in any way since he will most likely be enabled by at least someone in the family no matter what he does.
You have long odds of changing your wife’s mind or keeping her from totally cutting this creep out of her life also. Not to mention the fact that she may turn against you because she may feel like you are trying to run her life. Also the fact that if she were to alienate herself from Mr Creepy her family will begin to alienate themselves from her because she’s no longer a team player in the family of enablers.
Then the fact that you are demanding her to turn on this poor Mr Creepy and cause disruption in the family, she may very well end up resenting you!
This sounds like you are going to have to make a choice to either continue to deal with it, or leave.
People can develop crushes even while they are in a relationship. But it's what they do with those feelings that shows their character.
It sounds like your girlfriend is recognizing what is happening, and she wants to take the steps to center her relationship with you and stop contact with her coworker.
It must have been very painful to hear that she had those feelings. But I hope that you will recognize that she is choosing you, she is being open with you so that you can strengthen your relationship together. It's okay to feel hurt and shaken and to need time. But I hope you will move past the initial knee-jerk reaction to this, so you can have a dialogue together before deciding what it is you want to do.
Ok, so what will happen if she gets in touch with you again? If it’s a similar event or not ? Will you go ? This could’ve open a can of worms for you. You ‘ll see with time if you like having women’s attention again. Flirting could lead to something more if you are attracted to the woman to start of with.
It was so intense that it changed you and even your gf noticed it.
You know what you have to do. Whatever you had with him is gone. The sooner you end things, the sooner you'll become happy again. There is someone out there that will appreciate being with you. Sooner is better than later. Be happy. You deserve better.
“Why don’t you just divorce me so you can be single like your friends”
Out of fucking pocket, lost his monkey ass mind, I would’ve had to stop myself from sliding across the table and slapping the shit out of him for a wild ass comment like that
As they say when one marries they marry the family. This enabling has been going one for many many years. That’s hard for people to stop doing especially when they continue to feel sorry for someone. Add in it being family, it’s a high percentage they’ll always let that blind them to the fact of what a loser the person is. The fact that your wife clams up when confronted by things is also a big wedge. Since communication is one of the top factors in a healthy relationship. This dude has gotten used to being enabled all his life in spite of his situation of being a rape child, which is a terrible thing in it self. But he’s not going to change now in any way since he will most likely be enabled by at least someone in the family no matter what he does.
You have long odds of changing your wife’s mind or keeping her from totally cutting this creep out of her life also. Not to mention the fact that she may turn against you because she may feel like you are trying to run her life. Also the fact that if she were to alienate herself from Mr Creepy her family will begin to alienate themselves from her because she’s no longer a team player in the family of enablers.
Then the fact that you are demanding her to turn on this poor Mr Creepy and cause disruption in the family, she may very well end up resenting you!
This sounds like you are going to have to make a choice to either continue to deal with it, or leave.
Scorned? She got HIT. Your point is valid but please don’t call battered women “scorned”.
People can develop crushes even while they are in a relationship. But it's what they do with those feelings that shows their character.
It sounds like your girlfriend is recognizing what is happening, and she wants to take the steps to center her relationship with you and stop contact with her coworker.
It must have been very painful to hear that she had those feelings. But I hope that you will recognize that she is choosing you, she is being open with you so that you can strengthen your relationship together. It's okay to feel hurt and shaken and to need time. But I hope you will move past the initial knee-jerk reaction to this, so you can have a dialogue together before deciding what it is you want to do.
Ok, so what will happen if she gets in touch with you again? If it’s a similar event or not ? Will you go ? This could’ve open a can of worms for you. You ‘ll see with time if you like having women’s attention again. Flirting could lead to something more if you are attracted to the woman to start of with.
It was so intense that it changed you and even your gf noticed it.
You know what you have to do. Whatever you had with him is gone. The sooner you end things, the sooner you'll become happy again. There is someone out there that will appreciate being with you. Sooner is better than later. Be happy. You deserve better.
No cause my current gf got the calls first and there’s no way the my ex would had gotten her number