You're fixating a lot on this separate bedrooms point. Every single comment.
Did you know that some couples sleep in other bedrooms? Like if one partner needs lots of blankets and the other one needs very few blankets? One snores like a truck and keeps the other awake? One kicks at night? One uses their phone until they're tired and the other can't stand the light?
It's great that you've met his mom and sister, but that doesn't explain anything. It's really fucking sketchy that you haven't met his roommate in 7 months. At best, someone still has feelings, so he's catering to her so they can still have feelings and/or sex even if not in a relationship. At worst, you're the side chick.
Just to say it again: the way you handled the question from the guy was very professional. Indeed, if he asked for your contact to talk about research (that is, if you are working on similar topics and an exchange would make sense), there’s no way you could discern that he was trying to hit on you.
In a university setting, I would always give out my contact details freely. You never know how some contacts can help you in the future.
This is to say, your bf’s reaction was unreasonable.
It's not a solution. It's the opener to finding a solution. It's important to communicate one's feelings to one another so you can work through problems you have with each other and discover what might be lacking. If one feels as though they're not being affirmed as much, than that's a shortcoming that needs improvement. How is discussing one's feelings not working towards an emotional solution? I'm also not entirely sure what you mean by an “emotional problem requires an emotional solution.” Could you explain?
OP, she's not going to come right out and say she doesn't want kids because she's likely worried you will leave her, considering you're bringing it up all the time. Why do you think it's bringing her to tears???
Back the F off of bringing it up, and have a real conversation with her. LET HER KNOW that you are going to be okay if she says she does not want them because right now, you're basically pushing her to have them when you knew from the start she never really wanted children.
Create an environment where she feels safe telling the truth, and she probably will. That's not what you're giving her right now, though.
Cut contact with your brother and report him to the police. This seems like grooming behavior to me.
You're fixating a lot on this separate bedrooms point. Every single comment.
Did you know that some couples sleep in other bedrooms? Like if one partner needs lots of blankets and the other one needs very few blankets? One snores like a truck and keeps the other awake? One kicks at night? One uses their phone until they're tired and the other can't stand the light?
It's great that you've met his mom and sister, but that doesn't explain anything. It's really fucking sketchy that you haven't met his roommate in 7 months. At best, someone still has feelings, so he's catering to her so they can still have feelings and/or sex even if not in a relationship. At worst, you're the side chick.
Why on earth are you with this loser?
Just to say it again: the way you handled the question from the guy was very professional. Indeed, if he asked for your contact to talk about research (that is, if you are working on similar topics and an exchange would make sense), there’s no way you could discern that he was trying to hit on you.
In a university setting, I would always give out my contact details freely. You never know how some contacts can help you in the future.
This is to say, your bf’s reaction was unreasonable.
It's not a solution. It's the opener to finding a solution. It's important to communicate one's feelings to one another so you can work through problems you have with each other and discover what might be lacking. If one feels as though they're not being affirmed as much, than that's a shortcoming that needs improvement. How is discussing one's feelings not working towards an emotional solution? I'm also not entirely sure what you mean by an “emotional problem requires an emotional solution.” Could you explain?
OP, she's not going to come right out and say she doesn't want kids because she's likely worried you will leave her, considering you're bringing it up all the time. Why do you think it's bringing her to tears???
Back the F off of bringing it up, and have a real conversation with her. LET HER KNOW that you are going to be okay if she says she does not want them because right now, you're basically pushing her to have them when you knew from the start she never really wanted children.
Create an environment where she feels safe telling the truth, and she probably will. That's not what you're giving her right now, though.
You come up with that little diddy on your own or is that some handy phrase you keep in your pocket? There's other variables to consider.