I think the intrusive thoughts come from the fear that there are people that do flirt back or do have affairs. The whole blindsided never saw it coming thing. I’ve been there before. But i agree it’s exhausting on the other side too if you are being trustworthy
Would you want to be on good terms with someone who would rape and hurt a child?
Boundaries are how society works. We shun those who’s morals and ethics ignore boundaries such as consent or bodily autonomy.
If we didn’t, you would be expected to feed the same person who murdered your child and to do so with a smile on your face.
People who raise children to people please are basically raising children who’s boundaries have been violated so many times that they don’t know what boundaries are.
You have the right to not like people and to avoid them and to even be on bad terms with them. In fact I encourage it.
It is very bad that you don’t understand this, and it needs to be something you work on correcting ASAP.
There is a lot of good literature out there, I just don’t know the titles. If my fellow redditors could help out I would appreciate it.
i understand that i may not get much of an answer, but i also know that there is no ideal answer anyway. the closest thing to “ideal” would be to have my suspicions confirmed, cause then i could more easily categorize her as someone who sucks and isn't worth my energy. this is something i need to do either way, but it would certainly be a shortcut lol. i'm more concerned about whether bringing it up would put my friend in an uncomfortable position or if that's just a normal friend thing to ask
Maybe the problem is that his dick is too small, nonetheless, dump this utter pos there's nothing wrong with your vagina except the unworthy inconsiderate asshole you are giving unfettered access to it. He is not only sexually abusing you, he is also verbally and emotionally abusing you by making you feel there is something wrong with you and destroying your self esteem in the process. You deserve so much better, show yourself some love and get out of this situation.
How about you dump him like a hot brick and work on yourself through counseling. This is an insane plan and he will probably end up addicted to drugs and when everyone else gives him the boot he will come to you and milk you for everything you have including your life! Run run as fast as you can away from this dude! He’s running full speed into self destruct! Do not allow him to take you along! Get yourself some help now!
? Wow thanks for the laugh you stupid cunt. We talked for a whole year we know each other well yo get a fucking grip
Why are you trying to contact her..?
Girl.. he considers you plan B. Forget about him, move on, and never let anyone use you as their back up plan.
“Do you want to stay alive?” isn't pro choice though.
I think the intrusive thoughts come from the fear that there are people that do flirt back or do have affairs. The whole blindsided never saw it coming thing. I’ve been there before. But i agree it’s exhausting on the other side too if you are being trustworthy
Do whatever is the best thing for you to do with your life. The right person will jive with that. The wrong person for you will take issue.
Would you want to be on good terms with someone who would rape and hurt a child?
Boundaries are how society works. We shun those who’s morals and ethics ignore boundaries such as consent or bodily autonomy.
If we didn’t, you would be expected to feed the same person who murdered your child and to do so with a smile on your face.
People who raise children to people please are basically raising children who’s boundaries have been violated so many times that they don’t know what boundaries are.
You have the right to not like people and to avoid them and to even be on bad terms with them. In fact I encourage it.
It is very bad that you don’t understand this, and it needs to be something you work on correcting ASAP.
There is a lot of good literature out there, I just don’t know the titles. If my fellow redditors could help out I would appreciate it.
It doesn't sound like you're compatible. Love doesn't solve incompatibility issues.
i understand that i may not get much of an answer, but i also know that there is no ideal answer anyway. the closest thing to “ideal” would be to have my suspicions confirmed, cause then i could more easily categorize her as someone who sucks and isn't worth my energy. this is something i need to do either way, but it would certainly be a shortcut lol. i'm more concerned about whether bringing it up would put my friend in an uncomfortable position or if that's just a normal friend thing to ask
Maybe the problem is that his dick is too small, nonetheless, dump this utter pos there's nothing wrong with your vagina except the unworthy inconsiderate asshole you are giving unfettered access to it. He is not only sexually abusing you, he is also verbally and emotionally abusing you by making you feel there is something wrong with you and destroying your self esteem in the process. You deserve so much better, show yourself some love and get out of this situation.
How about you dump him like a hot brick and work on yourself through counseling. This is an insane plan and he will probably end up addicted to drugs and when everyone else gives him the boot he will come to you and milk you for everything you have including your life! Run run as fast as you can away from this dude! He’s running full speed into self destruct! Do not allow him to take you along! Get yourself some help now!