And me telling him I’m Upset is not the same as me telling him not to go. You can be upset bc u got canceling on last minute bc it was something u where looking forward to but doesn’t mean you’re telling the other person to not do something. I don’t think me being upset has anything to do with me telling him not to go ❤️
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18?! She lived with you because she needed you and he tried to seduce her. She was a freaking high schooler. I hate it when creeps are around their victims. He should not be allowed around her. What she is not telling you is all the other advances and accidental touches he did. If you stay with this guy, there is more heartbreak to come for you.
At best there was a mismatch of values. A “few” drinks might have influenced his decision but they wouldn’t have made him forget his answer—he either forgot or ignored it, and neither of those cases are good.
I think three months is a good amount of time to assume that things are exclusive between you. But even if you weren’t technically cheated on, it’s still okay to feel cheated. He didn’t take things as seriously as you did, and were hoping to do. And I’m sorry that he wasted three months on you.
Always check the age gap first. 32 and 27, but have dated since college. So at the oldest, she was 22 and he was 27? Youngest (being optimistic here) is 18 and 23? Both bad. Always creeps. This sub should have a bot that automatically does the math on how old each partner was when the relationship started. 99% of the time, when there’s a gap, the older persons a creep.
Even if he didn’t, it doesn’t sound like it’s a whole lot different. Total shit to agree with the decision then be a total asshole,about it after the fact. From what you said he decided with you – he doesn’t get to divorce himself from the fact now.
I also have BPD and can also confirm.
And me telling him I’m Upset is not the same as me telling him not to go. You can be upset bc u got canceling on last minute bc it was something u where looking forward to but doesn’t mean you’re telling the other person to not do something. I don’t think me being upset has anything to do with me telling him not to go ❤️
I consider it cheating when my husband doesn't bring me breakfast in bed… He's a terrible cheater as he has never brought me breakfast in bed .
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There's only one asshole in this thread, and it isn't the OP.
18?! She lived with you because she needed you and he tried to seduce her. She was a freaking high schooler. I hate it when creeps are around their victims. He should not be allowed around her. What she is not telling you is all the other advances and accidental touches he did. If you stay with this guy, there is more heartbreak to come for you.
Definitely
You are way too young to be putting up with this. You're still a teenager. You'll find someone else.
At best there was a mismatch of values. A “few” drinks might have influenced his decision but they wouldn’t have made him forget his answer—he either forgot or ignored it, and neither of those cases are good.
I think three months is a good amount of time to assume that things are exclusive between you. But even if you weren’t technically cheated on, it’s still okay to feel cheated. He didn’t take things as seriously as you did, and were hoping to do. And I’m sorry that he wasted three months on you.
I said that too so I understand.
You’re too old to be treated this badly, and a long distance relationship means that it would be even more intensely terrible in person
Always check the age gap first. 32 and 27, but have dated since college. So at the oldest, she was 22 and he was 27? Youngest (being optimistic here) is 18 and 23? Both bad. Always creeps. This sub should have a bot that automatically does the math on how old each partner was when the relationship started. 99% of the time, when there’s a gap, the older persons a creep.
Thanks. These sound really nice. I like the museum one a lot since she likes art and drawing.
Even if he didn’t, it doesn’t sound like it’s a whole lot different. Total shit to agree with the decision then be a total asshole,about it after the fact. From what you said he decided with you – he doesn’t get to divorce himself from the fact now.
Thank you for explaining that, that’s really helpful. Thanks for your kindness too