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? NIKKY ✦ STIVE ?, 24 y.o.
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Date: November 28, 2022
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If you're on top, a pillow under his butt should change the angle enough to change how it feels for both of you.
I told her I didn’t want to be together yet because I wasn’t sure what type of woman she was, I had good reason to think this
I'll assume you said this because either you have heard or seen stuff about her before you two got close. Either that, or she has shown some signs of possibly being not trustworthy before your trip. You didn't provide details or clarify what you meant. You also didn't mention whether he had his arm around her in a buddy way, or it was an intimate way. You said he did it out of nowhere. Was he a stranger, friend, or what was his relationship to her. Did she try to stop the contact, any other details would help.
Judging from that assumption from above if true that it was overfriendly, you might as well move on. Whether you remain friends is up to you. If you do stay in contact, make sure she knows that in no way would you be interested in anything more than friendship, that ship has sailed at least for anytime soon.
You guys might not of been dating and you had no “rights” to her heart despite being on the path to a relationship, but she did assure you she was not going to be involved with other men while you were gone. That lasted a few days and your friend saw her extra close with a guy. That is probably a sign of things to come as far as her being trustworthy.
As a parent who's listened to my husband talking about my daughters' significant others, I'll field this question.
From what I've read in the comments section, you're several years younger than your BF. You're living in your parent's house until Feb. You're planning on getting married, but as of right now, you're not married. So let's put this into perspective. Though you've been in a committed relationship for 3 years, to your father you were a teenager when this man, in his mid-20s, began dating his daughter. Now this man in his older 20s is living in his home. This man claims to love his daughter. This man claims to want to marry his daughter. This man claims to want to take care of his daughter.
No father feels comfortable handing his girl to a man who can't even put a roof over his daughter's head. I don't need to know the reasons why you're living in their house at the moment. You just need to understand that it brings forth a knee jerk reaction, “This man is not worthy of my daughter at this time,” from your father. “'He seems nice,' but he's unable to care for her. I'm still the one taking care of my baby.”
And of course your dad's nicer to your sibling's partners. They're all women that your brothers are with, not grown men living with his daughter in his house. You're attempting parity by saying “sibling partners,” but the circumstances don't make it an equitable situation. Instead of forcing the situation, try compassion and understanding with your dad. Then, when you move out, allow your BF and dad to progress with their relationship naturally.
Let me phrase it differently, see if I have it: he travels a bunch, you know he's seeking girls to “meet up with” while you are not with him and have learned of at least 1 time he successfully “met with” a girl in Amsterdam?
Cheaters usually claim and often do love their betrayed partner. They just don't connect that having sex with others is a deal breaker.
If you came home and found him under the sheets with an Instagram girl, but they weren't actually doing anything, just naked, sweaty and “oh hi, honey, I met her on Instagram”, would you say, “well, I didn't see the sex, so maybe he's not doing anything?”
He is actively seeking other girls to be with while on trips. That's repeatedly actively attempting to cheat. You know he met one. Did he have sex with her or did she turn him down? You know he tried. And you know he lies.
Run from this relationship. You will never trust him and you should never trust him.
This sub is very anti-polyamory, but some people aren’t built for monogamy. It’s not necessarily a defect, but it’s also a possibility that your best way of being is not compatible with the relationship that you’re in. Would you be happiest if you were free to do these things and also have a partner with the same freedom? If so, you’re probably someone who should be exploring alternative types of relationships (with full consent and honesty!) Is this something you want to be able to do but you don’t want a partner that does the same? Than you’re probably dealing with some sort of compulsive or addictive sexual tendencies and should seek professional help for it.
You keep mentioning that your relationship is healthy – is it really? A healthy relationship leads to a life-long commitment. You don't want to commit to her.
It's not appropriate to give him the opportunity to decide what he wants.
It's your job asxa spouse to inform him that he's failed you as a life partner – that his behavior is selfish, entitled, deceitful, and shows zero empathy for you. Therefore, unless he goes zero contact (yes zero forever) you will be exiting the marriage.
He contaminated his friendship with the woman. The consequences are he must forfeit the relationship. It's not negotiable.
And yes it may require he play with another group.
Inform the other woman and your friends.
See an attorney. The first hour is typically free.
Stop treating him as a husband. He is now just a roommate.
You abandoned him.
Regardless of reality, this is the wrench on the gears in the back of his mind.
Go with that knowledge and when you figure out how to address that without stating it, you'll be better.
You went through a lot together. You could be parted but always know you'll be there for each other.
Unless you grew up in europe, living in another country might as well be another planet.
Are you feeling where I'm going here?
This, just honestly show him this post and all the replies saying he's gross and trying to pretend his views are all men's views, and other men are literally saying in the thread that this is stupid young guys talk.
Do guys look? Sure. They are biologically programmed to. Do they have the ability to control themselves? Absolutely. They cover women up in other countries by pretending men can't control themselves and the rest of the world thinks that's barbaric because they know it's not true. So he can control himself to look, move on, and be respectful to the relationship he apparently wants.
You want to marry someone, or have a life, buy a house, have kids… you're not sitting drooling over all the girls like you can't believe your eyes they exist and are attractive. Like, get drunk enough and have one of those girls start talking to or flirting with him… someone with this obsessive thirst isn't likely to show good commitment.
He needs to grow the fuck up or be single.
“Play stupid game, win stupid prize.”
If you chose to make an ultimatum, i will come back with that sentence in a couple of days.
Ask him to work less for the sake of your relationship, open up about how you really feel. Dont ask for “absolute” solutions on reddit, a place full of strangers and people who have fucked up values and double-standards.
Tell him you need him to be around more and that you feel lonley and are considering breaking up because of this. The part about “about to break up over this” is the thing that really matters because he is fucking clueless and you are not making a lot of sens.
You are contradicting your own values in this short text like 5 times. You dont know what the fuck you want so how can he know.
This isn’t real. Age gap etc etc
This is none of your business. Ffs get a hobby.
Exactly Women “gossip” to stay safe and alive. It is a huge evolutionary benefit and has been a key to our survival for hundreds of thousands of years. Obviously the information we share has changed but the purpose is the same.
this could ONLY be written by a man. Like she NEVER showed you any interest but in a MONTG she suddenly became flirty (which I bet she doenst, tops she became more comfortable around you to make more bold jokes) and suddenly you are SURE she is into tou even though she said NOTHING ABOUT. THEN you decide to ask her to let you fuck her out of nowhere, with NO intimacy between you two. and now she is VENTING to her friends that I guess shouldn't be doing what they are doing, but you condemn her like she is the wrong one.
You learn nothing and I hope every girl and guy knows what you did so they can be protect from you.
Tell him he’s been watching to many movies of people rage quitting and he needs to get off the soap box and find a damn job yesterday. What an idiot lol
Ummm. Let me see if I get this right:
Bob and you had a fight. Bob got his panties in a twist and blocked your calls and avenues for contact.
You had an emergency and thus couldn't get hold of him. So you called his goodbuddy Tony. Tony helped you out, and was a good supportive friend – and Bob got bent about it.
Tammy got invloved- lots of accusations from Tammy and Bob pointed at you and Tony. You and Bob break up. He starts carrying on with Tammy.
You want Tammy nowhere near you as she's proved to be a bit of a snake at best. – Understandable.
Now you want him to cut off Tammy as a requirement to work together on your relationship. But he's only willing to do that if you detach from the only two friends you have left, because you chose Bob over all your other friendships?
Nah. Unless you benn boinking your two remaining friends- he's got no legs to stand on with that request.
Also- he didn't make you give up your other friends. You chose to do so because you decided this relationship was more important to you than those friendships. This guy who will get upset with you over an argument enough to block you – then start throwing around accusations of you cheating with his friend that you called because you couldn't get through to him. You decided this guy was worth sacrificing your social network and safety net for? If I were you, I'd be rethinking that.
I hope no one needs to spell out for you that one of the first things abusive people do is try to alienate you from your friends and loved ones. But if you need that spelled out- there you go.
So what you're asking for here is – should you be upset with him for asking you to give up your last two friends, who are willing to stand by you and support you regardless of you choices of who to partner with – while he drags his feet and is a smarmy jerk about Tammy?
I'm seeing huge- huge issues with both how he treats you, and with his demand that you cut off the two remaining social contacts.
I think you'd be a lot better off spending quality time with a therapist and getting some help with why you'd even consider doing that, than trying to make things work with a man who is trying to isolate you, and clearly has issues of his own. Not only a temper but quick to jump to cheating, and he rubs his friendship with Tammy in your face, huh? While she says they've been making like bunnies? And you want more of this guy?
Drop this mam as a waste of your time- he's no good. Go hang with your friends, make some new ones, find someone who doesn't try to isolate you, and doesn't make unreasonable demands of you.
His request to you is absolute crap.
Yes you are quite honestly right, I try so hard to be perfect for her, her expectations are extremely high you could say and sometimes it’s hard to be myself around them without saying the wrong thing and then they switch up on me getting upset and going quiet, it’s tiring asf at times. I’m always thinking whether I’ve done something wrong and a lot of the time I don’t I just don’t feel loved half of the time it sucks. She’s not like me at all really, and all the other guys that are in this race too it’s like damn, why the need for all this attention isn’t mine enough, apparently I’m the priority but it doesn’t always seem like it. All this worrying etc may not even be worth it because it could not work out yet, she already told me she’s not going to be able to love me properly because of how crazy her life is with uni, it’s more important to her than me right now because it’s what she wants to do as a career and loves it, I don’t really want to be in something we’re my emotional needs are being met in a normal relationship, I just wanna be loved and love someone not a one way street it’s meant to be a team effort here lol but.. I really like your advice and story thank you
Yes, I’ve removed him on everything so he can’t contact me, I’ve sent him back to his parents house & informed them of the situation and said that he has no reason to contact me, he has no clothes or belongings here anymore. I have my own house but I’m alone, I don’t think he would be bothered enough to come round, even though he’s not himself at the moment that isn’t his character. I do have good friends and family that are amazing, they’re super supportive. It’s just not the same as having a partner here 24/7 but it’s still lovely that I have them all
He’s just not that into you. If he was, he’d be around.
Ur a grown ass man acting like a heartbroken teenager. Hit the town, get some puss, and you'll be fine.
She did need the reality check, but not for her boyfriend to pin her down and refuse to relent as she cried the whole time. She was arrogant, he was beyond stupid.
Op left out key info – ex is a drug addict and it would be full custody of a severely traumatised 13yo 🙁
Well, you're broken up.
Why
She needs professional help. Unable to go more than 3 days without sex AND completely disregarding your health in the process?
No, ma'am. She literally isn't healthy for you.