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I think he thinks that i rejected hin for religious purposes. We r from a religious families where if people find out that two people are dating or something then the girl is judged, blamed and ostracised. Today first he was playing sad songs then converted to songs that included lyrics something along the lines of “ i will ask for ur hands”. So i was thinking maybe he meant if i ask for ur hands and u wanna accept, u wont be ostracised. I have been ignoring him. Should i text sonething along the lines of “I genuinely dont wanna be anything more than cousins. Its not because of religious reasons”, should i text something else or keep ignoring him?
Her lover forced her to come clean, that shows you everything you need to know. Her crocodile tears didn't stop her from having an affair, or seeing this guy multiple times. She's just sad about you finding out, and how it's changing things.
Whether you leave or stay you need to cancel the engagement and marriage. Reconciliation wouldn't be the choice I make, but if you do, it takes 3-5 years or work. That's years spent on rebuilding the relationship and trust. Marriage is about taking the next step, and your clearly not there. Reconcile if you must, but do so knowing that marriage shouldn't be on the table for years to come.
Thank you:)
Sounds like he was married or with someone and got caught, to be honest.
Mothers don't own their kids. He's just as much of a parent as she is, and removing a child from an abusive situation is a positive act.
Yeah without being so blunt, that is bottom line my stance as well.
“Hi Boyfriend. I want to correct you on something. There is nothing wrong with being the person who says the thing that begins the verbal argument, when what they say is a fair and accurate response to something you did. When you're the one who does something wrong, and you don't feel the need to correct it or apologize or do better, our only options are to have a fight so we can get to a resolution, or for me to leave you for someone who will treat me as a priority. So the next time the words “You're trying to start a fight” come out of your mouth when I am upset, instead of you discussing the actual issue, I am going to assume you just want me to leave you since that's my only other option.”
There is not much you can do in this. Although his mom sounds like a weirdo treating him like a little teen, it's still her house.
She says you fit all criteria, meaning she's being super petty and going out of her way to ruin a good thing.
I don't think anybody knows what this person wants, but it's probably not healthy at all. This is how manipulation begins, tbh
It annoys me when people ask for advice but a very particular about what they want to hear. People have a right to express their opinion – you don’t have to be an ass to those who don’t agree.
Anyways, I agree with you. I don’t believe kids should be hit. And I don’t think this is worth leaving over. Not yet anyways. If I were you, I’d ask him why he feels that hitting is the only option. Hear him out, and then suggest other solutions to her negative behavior that will work for the both of you. I’m sure he doesn’t want to die on the “hitting children” hill.
Who hurt you ?? She didn’t even say anything that was rude towards him or that girl. She even said she was happy she was able to help him but she does feel some type of way. She’s a human being why you want to paint her out to be so negative ? Cause you know her off one post lmao.
Take up a hobby.
Go out with friends.
Cooking.
Stay busy with something but not with someone.
Feel accomplished.
Work out.
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Are you new to Reddit? Have you not seen the 100 posts a week about this exact situation where one partner suggests an open marriage and then regrets it when their monogamous partner moves on? Hope the dick was worth the risk!
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This sounds like way too much drama for a year long relationship. You're his first girlfriend and he's 37? Doesn't that seem a bit odd to you? He's obviously not used to adult communication with a partner and thinks he can do whatever he wants without considering others.
Your request is reasonable. It would take him a moment to text and tell you he's safe. He's just being stubborn and unreasonable.
Can you be bothered to put up with this long term? He won't change. If he won't put minimal effort in what makes you think he will be a suitable long term partner?
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Your girlfriend unceremoniosly dumped a sick woman from her own bed. I think you should have walked out and never looked back.
Why did this come about after a year then? Maybe she thought you’d at least introduce her to your folks before unprompted, but you didn’t so she’s rethinking the relationship. Hence why she tried breaking up several times.
Also, what does “ensure both of our safety” mean?
This was complicated to read.
Well, he needs to be diagnosed. No sense wondering how meds will affect him until he sees a doctor and he’s going to need to do that all on his own. I’m not a doctor but his behavior for that evening sounded rather extreme. How does he manage work and other life events? To be undiagnosed to to that level of ADHD at 45 might indicate some other mental health issues.
If I were the woman in this situation and someone did that, I would be completely creeped out and terrified. Do not contact her. Don’t send her anything via a third party, don’t bring her anything yourself, don’t send her a letter, don’t even WRITE the letter. Leave her alone, keep doing your therapy and move on. Yes you’ve completely lost her, accept it and move on.
There is absolutely no need to disrupt this child’s life. Your husband needs to meet this child and have a paternity test and start to support the child financially and have a relationship with the child. First maybe as a distant uncle and slowly as her father. Don’t rush into this little girls life.
You said you were pushing her away in the first part of your post. In case it wasn’t clear my point was: this is a you problem, you caused it and stop being insecure and having a go at your girlfriend for having a wank.
It’s not hard to pick up the subtext.
The fact he didn't even trust you enough and just believed anything his brother says should give you all you need to know. Leave that jerk. You deserve a family that loves you and a husband that trusts you.
You have to love yourself enough to walk away from him. He isn't worth the pain he is putting you through. Break up, block him, and take time to heal. It's better to walk away after 9 months than to put up with it for years. I did it. You can do it. The hurt is temporary. You deserve better and will find it.
I was 18, he was 31. He hid his drug and alcohol problem from me initially but then the floodgates burst. He proposed. We were engaged. He then came out as gay. We broke up. A few years later he married a woman younger than me. I am 29 now and I cannot fathom what interest he had in someone so young (other than my body, naivety and the ability to mould me into something he wanted).
You leaving was reasonable, but her being upset is also reasonable. Sounds like an unfortunate situation that showed that the two of you aren’t the most compatible.
You asked a question – I answered.
Your too old for her. And you need to heal before you start something else.
How can she be your best friend at 19? What do you actually have in common? She is barely out of school and your what? Doing your masters? Phd? In another country? Your worlds apart.
Even if you were not as dysfunctional as your ex, you were in a very unhealthy relationship and need to heal before starting something else. Hopping from one relationship to another isn’t healthy.
Thank you, I think you're definitely right in that we need to talk about it some more, and maybe creating a mental list of his efforts and qualities that I appreciate will help… I'm housesitting alone with my dog next week, and hope the time alone might help me gain some space and clarity in what to say I actually want out of the relationship – and hope that we end up wanting the same
Piss on him? In all seriousness, could you not keep an eye on the toilet look routine checks, take photos as soon as you see someone go in there hover around and when they're done re inspect the toilet to find the culprit.
You may be right. Should I delete her off my social medias? It sounds childish but maybe that’s the best for me.
Lmao fuck the bourgeoisie. I dont feel bad for either of you. What did you fall and land on his dick? Fuck off. Go ask char gpt what to do.
Thats good to know! I don’t know how things are now but i remember even thinking the 22 year olds were young.
Hopefully he doesn’t have to take a dump next time.
I know I should. I will bring this topic into therapy, but I wanted other people’s opinion first.
Silly me is paying monthly for a lot of expensive stuff and while he sleeps happily I lay stressed about making enough money to pay for everything, every month.
all depends who is responsible if not paid…if the bill comes in her name i wouldn’t even respond…if it will effect your credit that’s a different scenario
You said you knew this when you agreed to marry her but clearly didn't do a lot of research or ask her about what exactly that entailed.
It sucks but you're realizing your deal breakers with her condition a bit too late. Normally this is something you figure out BEFORE getting married and starting to build a life together so you don't end up in situations like this.
You could try to see an individual counselor and see if that helps clear things up for you but if you guys aren't on the same page about having kids and how you want to spend the rest of your lives, I don't see this getting better.
Understandable. I consider smoking and getting drunk as cheating.
Joe Cole said it best, “don't save her, she don't want to be saved”
Couples therapy and individual therapy. For both of you. If you were communicating effectively together, you wouldn’t be on Reddit.
That said, people fake interest when they’re early dating and trying to impress someone. Maybe it really is stress. But if you’re both doctors, what’s the financial stress? Are you pulling your weight around the house? It just seems like there’s got to be a reason…..
What a stupid question. how the fuck would we know what’s going on in your bf head?
The only thing we know for sure is, you need thet and that your bf should break up with you and you should not be dating until you work on yourself.
From the comments you've made, it wasn't obvious what you would do, so I wouldn't say the question was ridiculous. Reddit has shown me things you think people would obviously never do they would, so I don't take anything for granted.
Wow sounds like you made the right decision for you. Live your best life while your young.
Honestly, constant fights are exhausting. Having a jealous partner is exhausting. It destroys relationships.
He may have cared for you, but maybe the fights were too much. I don't know. I know some things are legitimately argument worthy, but even then things can be talked out in a way that doesn't seem like an argument.
You guys are incredibly young. I expect you both still have tons of growing to do. That's normal, though.
My advice? Work on the jealousy. Don't wait around for him though. It's entirely possible that you'll meet someone that you fit with better. If this guy did things that upset you all the time, that's not a good place to be no matter how much you care.
I’m sorry but your husband is slow af
Yeah I didn’t insist afterwards we just stopped talking about it
I don’t understand your family at all. You have nothing to feel guilty of. I think it’s time to go low contact for a while.
Sounds like you should break up.
Talk to a lawyer or finance adviser, not reddit, is my advice. Defo have a prenup.
Talk to a lawyer or finance adviser, not reddit, is my advice. Defo have a prenup.
My guess is your traumatized brain was trying to deal with things the best it could.
Correct. It's his penis.
Wow that just sucks. This may be where you rethink the relationship. At 18 and having limited experience it may be that he has no understanding of mutual satisfaction in everything to maintain a healthy partnership. You are young so being vocal about the unfairness and standing up to his failures by saying no more. I learned it is better when both partners peak together and it can take time and effort to achieve. If unsuccessful you should seek a new partner
No, it’s not. Your personal experience doesn’t define what is common or rare.
She sent you that to get you to feel awful about yourself and try to get you to feel repulsed by your relationship. It’s a manipulative thing that I have heard shitty humans like to do. I’m sorry you have to deal with such a toxic bitch.
As for what do you do, do you want to stay in the relationship? Can you get over this? It’s completely understandable to say no. Have you discussed this with your bf?
He should pick something cheap, under $100, and after the proposal he can explain that it was always his intent to get her a ring of her own choosing. You can get something pretty but not valuable on that budget – maybe gold over sterling silver, or just sterling silver, and lab-created stones of some kind.
That's my advice.
Here’s an angle to approach from:
Why are you upset?
Just try to put that down in words. Start with as many words as you need. Then pare that down and pare that down until you have a “mission statements” of sorts.
Because while I surely find it more than a little troubling that your fiancé can sit there watching you struggle financially and still spend massive amounts of money … you also acknowledge that you have not claim or interest in the money. Would you have been fine if she told you all about her massive spending? If some of that massive spending was on you??
Age difference and maturity issues aside – This isn’t about your husband and his ex. This is about some seriously low self esteem and jealousy issues within you. Their friendship just highlights it. Have you spoken to a therapist about the underlying issues and why you have landed on this obsession? It may help to speak to a professional and deconstruct why this is happening. And it may neatly even tie in to your attraction to men who may be considered a father-figure for you. It’s always nice to speak to someone who can help you unravel your thoughts and put them back together again in a better light.
There are other possible explanations. Personally I'd ask now as a wake-up call, because if you wait till after there's probably no coming back from it.
Do you want to make him feel better or make yourself feel better? Because you seem like the type of person who really just wants to soothe her own conscious. You have every right to a satisfying sex life and you have the right to discuss it with your partner. But there is a time, place, a way to have those conversations. Getting drunk and going into “detail” sounds like the worst possible thing you could do to someone you love. If you can’t control your mouth when you drink, then you shouldn’t drink. I would be so ashamed of myself. You hurt him. I wouldn’t blame him if he didn’t forgive you. Your actions were cruel. There’s not much you can do but wait this out. I hope he has enough self respect to dump you
Always wondered what happened. I lost the number afterward on app when I got logged out of it. I had no way to contact her. I realized it may be possible today if I physically search the area.
What does she bring to the table. You lost your job so she should not only be encouraging you, she should be busting her ass to help out financially. Your friends are absolutely right. Take whatever job you can get for now so, you know, you can afford groceries and heat. But you have a serious wife problem and it sounds like she could easily ruin you financially and not give two shits about it.