You have entirely different life goals and it doesn’t seem like they’re compatible right now. Only you can decide if conforming to her preferences (or an unknown compromise option) is more important than keeping her.
if you are putting money into an account you cannot access, then that confirms my suspicion of financial abuse. This is not a safe or healthy situation, OP. You have absolutely 100% right to spend every dollar you earn, in the way you see fit.
Here the problem is that he lied. How comfortable is he lying to you? Couple's therapy might help you both gain some clarity
Online music collaboration is real! If you’re obsessed with writing you can make it work with anyone in the world.
This isn’t an open relationship. She’s cheating. And she’s emotionally abusing you and gaslighting you. Get a lawyer.
So she won't just drop dead then. Have you been makeing suicide threats if she breaks up WITH YOU?!?!
You have entirely different life goals and it doesn’t seem like they’re compatible right now. Only you can decide if conforming to her preferences (or an unknown compromise option) is more important than keeping her.
if you are putting money into an account you cannot access, then that confirms my suspicion of financial abuse. This is not a safe or healthy situation, OP. You have absolutely 100% right to spend every dollar you earn, in the way you see fit.