You're not managing sarcasm???? Your relatives are emotionally abusing your child. You can see the effects it has and your first thought isn't to save your child from it? To remove him the unnecessary hateful attitudes that will hurt him???
Cut them off. You already see the damage happening and it is damage.
It sounds like he doesn’t want to take accountability for not getting you gifts and he doesn’t want to talk about it, so he’s deflecting things on you (not sure what gaslighting means tbh). I would recommend not getting him gifts moving forward so he can see how it feels.
Nah to that. I wonder if he'd also mad about you going out with your friends in general. Because I'm guessing he's the type to always want to control you. I'd really recommend thinking about if it seems like he's been isolating you from the people that love you in general.
Thanks for your kind words. It was pretty rough and at some point felt like there was no end in sight. Now I feel the hardest challenge is to learn to trust again. Someday I’ll get better.
Her fallback and go to man will always be in your relationship. She went straight to her FWB for an ego boost after your breakup. She is not going to move on from him and forwards with you. You need to break up for good this time. Also when you’re on a break you are single and free to date others. She was single so didn’t do anything wrong. But she is wrong for keeping a relationship with him while in a relationship with you.
Her fallback and go to man will always be in your relationship. She went straight to her FWB for an ego boost after your breakup. She is not going to move on from him and forwards with you. You need to break up for good this time. Also when you’re on a break you are single and free to date others. She was single so didn’t do anything wrong. But she is wrong for keeping a relationship with him while in a relationship with you.
You're on solid ground in being upset that this person wanted their baby gifts to wipe out their monetary debt to you. But beyond that, babies are impossible for buy for unless you've published a gift registry. So one mention of tigers was likely to bring in a flood of tigers. Although if this person is overspending on baby stuff instead of paying you back, that would be irritating.
My parents had this kind of issue, sort of. My father demanded that my mother give him blow jobs and anal (started after they got married). She refused, he kept pushing, year after year. He bullied her, forced her. They went to marriage counseling and the counselor said they should make a deal that she'd give him a BJ once a month if he'd stop harping on the anal. She tried, it made her sick. He got abusive, and the marriage was very, very bad because he had one type of sexuality and she had another. They divorced and she happily married a man that respected her and what she was comfortable with, and they were happy together until the day he died. My father remained single because he couldn't find someone else to put up with his selfish nature.
Moral of the story: Find someone who respects and cares about you and what you are comfortable with, and will never demand that you go way out of your comfort zone to give him something that satisfies him and makes you sick. You should never sacrifice yourself that way.
I think (IMVVHO) there is enough blame to go around.
Your friend, if authentically Autistic, has difficulty appreciating social
dynamics and his part in them. He also has difficulty “reading” the “non-verbal”
communications (see: meta-communications) such as voice tone and tenor, posture
and expression. You may have anticipated a sort of support that he was not up
to in a social situation.
OTOH, the challenges of navigating the social context of a “queer” identity in a
Straight Environment can easily perplex even the most accomplished, so a certain
“toughening” of the Intuitive and Emotional armor is also indicated.
You DO have the opportunity to feel “righteously indignant” and enjoy the
moral high-ground……
OR
Reaffirm with your SO that there is still some polishing to do between you
and continue to build your Trust in anticipation of the next event.
Your choice.
You're not managing sarcasm???? Your relatives are emotionally abusing your child. You can see the effects it has and your first thought isn't to save your child from it? To remove him the unnecessary hateful attitudes that will hurt him???
Cut them off. You already see the damage happening and it is damage.
It sounds like he doesn’t want to take accountability for not getting you gifts and he doesn’t want to talk about it, so he’s deflecting things on you (not sure what gaslighting means tbh). I would recommend not getting him gifts moving forward so he can see how it feels.
Omg. I’m so glad they got to keep both girls. Stuff of nightmares.
Nah to that. I wonder if he'd also mad about you going out with your friends in general. Because I'm guessing he's the type to always want to control you. I'd really recommend thinking about if it seems like he's been isolating you from the people that love you in general.
Thanks for your kind words. It was pretty rough and at some point felt like there was no end in sight. Now I feel the hardest challenge is to learn to trust again. Someday I’ll get better.
Her fallback and go to man will always be in your relationship. She went straight to her FWB for an ego boost after your breakup. She is not going to move on from him and forwards with you. You need to break up for good this time. Also when you’re on a break you are single and free to date others. She was single so didn’t do anything wrong. But she is wrong for keeping a relationship with him while in a relationship with you.
Her fallback and go to man will always be in your relationship. She went straight to her FWB for an ego boost after your breakup. She is not going to move on from him and forwards with you. You need to break up for good this time. Also when you’re on a break you are single and free to date others. She was single so didn’t do anything wrong. But she is wrong for keeping a relationship with him while in a relationship with you.
You're on solid ground in being upset that this person wanted their baby gifts to wipe out their monetary debt to you. But beyond that, babies are impossible for buy for unless you've published a gift registry. So one mention of tigers was likely to bring in a flood of tigers. Although if this person is overspending on baby stuff instead of paying you back, that would be irritating.
My parents had this kind of issue, sort of. My father demanded that my mother give him blow jobs and anal (started after they got married). She refused, he kept pushing, year after year. He bullied her, forced her. They went to marriage counseling and the counselor said they should make a deal that she'd give him a BJ once a month if he'd stop harping on the anal. She tried, it made her sick. He got abusive, and the marriage was very, very bad because he had one type of sexuality and she had another. They divorced and she happily married a man that respected her and what she was comfortable with, and they were happy together until the day he died. My father remained single because he couldn't find someone else to put up with his selfish nature.
Moral of the story: Find someone who respects and cares about you and what you are comfortable with, and will never demand that you go way out of your comfort zone to give him something that satisfies him and makes you sick. You should never sacrifice yourself that way.
So not only is he stupid AF to pay a scammer but he was cheating on you. Idk why you would want to even stay with him.
Overreacting! Pre wedding jitters maybe?
Yeah stop dating assholes with small limp dicks?
And no sex. Let him know what it will feel like if you leave.