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Date: October 30, 2022
I don't think he called what the mom is doing inappropriate. Bear in mind his wife and daughter are the same sex and he is opposite and may be more cautious because of that.
He’s said 6-12 months, so anywhere in between there he thinks he’ll be ready.
He hasn’t said finances is a bar and objectively it isn’t. He has only said he’s not ready. My issue isn’t the reason anyway, it’s the way he’s handled the scenario.
Thankfully my parents live not far from London so I have a back up option. But other than that love with strangers or by myself if I can find somewhere to take me (I’m a student plus working so will struggle).
Lol. Age gap policee ???
Sometimes people say things out of anger relationships are never rainbows and unicorns. Retaliating isn't going to help talk about it with him and if it's consistent it's toxic that's all
Well that's one load off, at least you don't have the guilt of being the other woman.
Worst case scenario, he says he wants nothing to do with little one, and you continue as you are now.
Best case scenario, your kid gets another person who loves them (as well as a half-sibling and a Stepmom), and if he pays child support, you get some extra money to help with the not-inconsiderable cost of raising a child.
Imagine the guilt you'll feel when your kid starts asking questions later in life and you either lie to them or say “I know exactly who he is, but I never gave him the chance to know you because I hid you like a dirty secret”.
I imagine it's very anxiety inducing, but you're a mom, and you can do this! For your baby. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope the end result is positive x
Well that's one load off, at least you don't have the guilt of being the other woman.
Worst case scenario, he says he wants nothing to do with little one, and you continue as you are now.
Best case scenario, your kid gets another person who loves them (as well as a half-sibling and a Stepmom), and if he pays child support, you get some extra money to help with the not-inconsiderable cost of raising a child.
Imagine the guilt you'll feel when your kid starts asking questions later in life and you either lie to them or say “I know exactly who he is, but I never gave him the chance to know you because I hid you like a dirty secret”.
I imagine it's very anxiety inducing, but you're a mom, and you can do this! For your baby. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope the end result is positive x
Toaster, your GF's abusive and unstable behaviors cannot be excused — but perhaps can be explained, especially if you would speak to a psychologist in your city. They may be due to her having very weak control over her own emotions (i.e., a lack of emotional skills she had no chance to learn in childhood). My exW has that problem. If it is an issue for your GF, you likely would be seeing 4 other red flags.
The first is a strong abandonment fear. I therefore ask whether, a few months into your relationship, she started showing strong jealousy over harmless events involving other women — or tried to isolate you away from your close friends and family members? She would view your spending time with friends/family as your choosing them over her. Moreover, she usually would hate being alone by herself.
Second, you would be seeing her rely heavily on black-white thinking, wherein she tends to categorize some people as “all good” (“with me”) or “all bad” (“against me”) and will recategorize them — in just a few seconds — from one polar extreme to the other based on a minor infraction.
Because she also uses B-W thinking in judging HERSELF, she would rarely acknowledge making a mistake or having a flaw. Doing so would imply, in her mind, she is “all bad.” She thus would blame nearly all misfortunes/mistakes on you and view herself as “The Victim.”
Further, to “validate” her victim status, she would keep a detailed mental list of every infraction/mistake you ever did (real or imagined) and would not hesitate to pull out the entire list to defend herself in the most insignificant disagreement with you. Moreover, this B-W thinking also would be evident in her frequent use of all-or-nothing expressions like “you ALWAYS…” and “you NEVER….”
Third, you generally would not see her directing her anger at casual friends, coworkers, or total strangers. She usually gets along fine with them. Rather, her outbursts and temper tantrums almost exclusively would be directed against a close loved one (e.g., against you, a sibling, or her parents).
Fourth, you are convinced that she truly loves you. But you frequently see her flipping, on a dime, between Jekyll (loving you) and Hyde (devaluing or hating you) — often making you feel like you're walking on eggshells around her. Such flips would occur in a few seconds in response to some minor thing you say or do. A few hours or days later, she can flip back just as quickly.
Toaster, have you been seeing strong occurrences of all 4 of these red flags?
I'm confused. her telling you she's never been with anyone else is somehow proof she cheated while you were in boot camp? You give no evidence whatsoever of cheating. What are you even talking about?
Can afford therapy will have to leave
This relates to consent. If you are not comfortable with having sex without protection and she does not respect this, then you need to respect your boundaries. I know it can be tough, but please do not do anything that makes you feel this way.
“He’s good with emotional support and we get along with each other with the same humor and chemistry (he said that to me)” okay, and??? This dude started grooming a 15 year old online, and I’m sure you’re leaving out the details because they are probably pervy at best. Your cousin is right.
If you even need to ask this question…
You mentioned him throwing out his stuff suddenly and honestly this might be a sign of mental illness. The extensive lying to cover it as well as him victimizing himself with him losing his finger to look like a hero too. I’d rethink other instances with him as it seems there’s more to this than just this moment. This moment is the snapping on the camel’s back because he finally got caught.
Otherwise, what he did was creepy and broke SO many boundaries. He’s having an episode to guilt trip you so don’t fall for it. His reactions are like a bully in school. He desires the reaction, so do not give it to him especially if it is mental illness. I’m sorry you’re having to go through this and I’m sorry this situation even happened too.
You're going to feel better once you're free of that rabbit boiler. You file for divorce.
I'm confused, maybe I'm reading it wrong. Was she not the one who said he was 10/10?
This asshole is going to give you and std and then say you must have cheated on him when you bring it up.
You say you’re good with a second pregnancy – what’s the issue here?
This dude is abusive and controlling.
You have been seeing him for 2 months.
This is just the beginning of a bad journey if you decide to ignore the red flags.
It doesn’t matter if $138 without a lap dance makes sense or not. It’s not about the dollars spent, is it? Or would you have cared any less if you weren’t on leave from work (presumably unpaid or only partially paid). The problem is he is lying and doesn’t even have the integrity to give you the whole truth.
IMO he volunteered info about not having a lap dance really fast which makes me think he got a lap dance.
I've already said this in other comments but I didn't want to jump right into a relationship. I prefer casual stuff anyways but if I were to get in a relationship I would want to be fwb first if possible because that's basically in between friends and a relationship. I know that most people don't see it that way but that's what I was thinking.
That's why they call it a gut feeling and not a fact
5 minutes with an amazing partner is better than 2 hours with a random
Yeah op needs to get in with this, before the gf tries some bullshit, “it’s been 3 days and you haven’t even tried talking to me, this is how little you care about our relationship”. Then all of a sudden op’s on the defensive, manipulated into defending something he doesn’t even want
Is it possible to be in a committed relationship while still being friendly terms with your ex.
Sure, but its also unlikely.
Lool you planning to give someone, that you daily break up, half your assets while going into marriage?
Sounds like suicide.
You ment ex-bf right ?
Why are you marrying someone you don't trust not to leave you?
Thats is a lot to think about. Thank you.
Remember OP, your wife is the cause of these tears. Not you! Now your entire family has to suffer because of her unforgivable actions. Good luck. X
Thank you responding! Easier said than done. Truth is i really love who she is as a person, whats missing in this (trying to not be bias due to her past mistakes) is some understanding and compromise.
but she loves me that im sure of and i do love her as well, if she never wanted to reveal thois to me she would never have but she wanted to
Yeah, you did the right thing by just saying how it makes you feel, and offering a compromise. She was quick to turn it around on you instead of having a mature discussion about it. Similar to how you describe her reaction to cheating. So it seems she's still very much who she was before.
Think of it as an incompatibility issue. You can both move on to find partners who better fit your individual needs.
She says if I try and stall she will hate me forever.
Sadly this is already the case, but what can you do.
I wouldn't give in to any strongarm tactics, it's a shame when someone won't work with you at a logical level.
People look at people they are attracted to. Everyone does it. Hope this helps.
Just leaving is not an option. There are extra factors to take into account. This dude is the typical guy next door that everyone loves while he subtly makes the wife out to be a crazy bitch because he would never even when he does. Unfortunately because of his charm and who he isjust getting up and leaving is not an option.
100%
FYI, if there's a law school in your area, they often have clinical programs that can help with these cases for free if you meet the income requirements.
(I did this in law school, and it was a very valuable experience. The students were supervised by experienced attorneys, and we had a good success rate).
Unfortunately, it's true about the long wait times for hearings and often needing to appeal an initial denial. Having an attorney or law school involved really helps your odds significantly.
Everyone keep saying to tell you dad. I was in the same situation as you at 14. I told my dad to confess what he had done to my mom. I told him many times, and eventually the lies caught up with him, and my mom caught him.
Either way, you’re not at fault, it’s not your responsibility and it’s also not your relationship, but in your situation, you mom needs to take accountability and tell your dad. At least for everyone’s sake and for your mental health.
This sounds hopeless unless he doesn’t like her. But looks like he’s fine with it. She’s 1000% going to win all the fights
Flowers are nice. I don't think it would hurt to tell her your hopes but also leave it up to her. Just tell her that you'd really like to work things out and this is this last effort you will make as you are not about to be a stalker. No response will be taken as her telling you to leave her alone. No mixed messages, no games. You are willing to do the work, if she is too, then she can get in touch. Otherwise, it's time to walk away.