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Date: October 27, 2022
Yes you’re right. Thank you these comments have me feeling insane hahahah, it really isn’t a big deal like. I’ll definitely have a conversation with him about it. Thank you ❤️
Here's someone's comment that actually sees the entire picture of what I'm going through. Maybe this will help yall since so many people automatically think I'm trying to get over on some dude I've literally spent my whole adult life with. My God. Like how do you get that when I've been with my fiance so fucking long and put up with so much. It's laughable. Not everyone wants to just be taken care of, and definitely contribute a lot to this relationship. I was looking for constructive criticism but apparently that's too much to ask for which is hilarious because that's what this sub is supposed to be for. Go figure lol. If genders were reversed would I receive the same? Who knows.
Since I don't know how to show it came from another comment I just copied it here:
There is one thing I want to address, looking through these comments from other people.. so I'm going to hop up on a soapbox here, I'm sorry in advance.
We see posts kinda like this a lot. “I'm moving in with my boyfriend, but I don't want to pay his mortgage if he's getting equity and I'm not, how can I convince him he needs to add me to the deed?” And the short answer is.. the OP absolutely does not deserve to be put on the house, paying rent to a landlord is a perfectly normal part of living in a house you do not own. Generally, the rule is that you don't get financially entangled with someone until you are married (bank accounts, credit cards, loans, mortgages, etc.). This rule is because of the situation you've found yourself in, where you're financially entangled but don't have any legal protections in case things don't work out.
So I think a lot of people here are getting thrown off, because usually, this goes the other way. OP is being entitled and has no business asking for the thing they think they deserve. To add to that, the solution is really simple – he's saying he'll only do it if you guys get married, which is exactly what we will all naturally say should be done! So makes sense, either marry the guy or accept you aren't entitled to his house!
Buuut they're not seeing what I'm seeing. You have never wanted to get married, for whatever reason. He knows that, so he's dangling a carrot. He has kept you barefoot and pregnant. You're forced to stay home and raise the kids, and once the older one was in school so you could go full time work, you were pregnant again. The timing is very suspicious. You're not on his bank accounts. You aren't allowed to get a job. He's holding you hostage financially, and giving you some bait that he knows you don't want to take.
Add to that you're 36 and you've been with him for 16 years… so you've been with this guy since you were 20 and he was 30. You trusted him. I'm in an age gap marriage myself, I was 21 when I married my 34 year old husband and we're still together today, so trust me I get it! But this very often doesn't work because of the power imbalance you have pointed out. Very often, the older partner is actively seeking a younger partner, because they are naive and easy to control, and can be molded to fit what they want in a partner. You trusted him, and it sounds very likely to me that he has been taking advantage of you since the day he met you.
You shouldn't listen to the people telling you this is reasonable or you should just get married. They aren't seeing the financial abuse or the grooming. You absolutely should not go further into a relationship with him without resolving all these issues (unless your lawyer thinks it's a better legal plan). You're a victim here. You can see now all the things you should have done differently, and people can't get over the fact that you didn't know better – because you trusted him to have your best interests in mind.
What has happened to you is absolutely awful, and you haven't done anything to deserve the situation you're in. I'm very glad you're looking at everything realistically now, even though I'm sure it causes a great deal of pain and stress. Please, please, please don't marry him just to get on the deed to the house. You're right, he has been lying to you the whole time about his intentions and he's only being honest now because he thinks you're trapped and you're getting harder to manipulate.
And one last very important thing to keep in mind: abuse escalates when they think you're going to leave. The most deadly time for you is going to be trying to leave. You need to keep acting like everything is completely normal, and don't give him any indication that you might leave. (I know you haven't decided to leave and you still want to work things out – but in case you change direction, I want you to know this.) If you decide to leave, you should work with a lawyer to cover yourself legally, and also call a domestic violence group to get help with getting an exit strategy so you can be as safe as possible.
I don't know if it means anything to you, but this stranger is proud of you for coming here to ask for help. You have no idea how many people we try to help that can't acknowledge that their relationship isn't just a notch shy of perfect, it was a breath of fresh air to see your responses looking at the facts and really taking the advice into consideration. I really, really hope things work out for you.
This is a perfectly reasonable boundary and your views on sex work are just fine. I think it might be very helpful to begin marriage counseling though before thinking of separation or divorce especially if your marriage is otherwise happy and healthy.
You cheated on me? When I specifically asked that you not?!
Someone in a 16 year relationship. Yeah, it kinda is especially with the arguments that resulted in him breaking up with you. He did communicate maybe not to your liking but for him it was.