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Date: October 27, 2022
that sounds nice but she cant kick him out like that legally . it’s his house too in the end
What is the benefit to telling her?
Excellent advice and happy birthday!
Of course she doesn't nor does she respect your marriage. Why are you defending her?
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Break up with him for sure. I once had to tell an ex that, “I don’t need your permission to break up with you” and that seemed to actually get through to her. Wishing you luck
So she is a serial cheater? My dude (gender neutral term in my opinion) …. you are too young to have to be dealing with this as in there are plenty of people out there who would love to have you for their girlfriend. They just need to meet you. Do not expect things will be different if all the players remain the same.
First of all, someone who insults how you look, knowing how insecure you are, is not the 'kindest person youve ever met'.
As for what happened, organise to meet up in person (if hes happy with it) and have an open and honest discussion. Ask him how he feels, then talk about your feelings.
Have you reassured your wife you've no interest in her? Because all you've said she's single but knows I'm married. My husbands girlfriend knew he was married, didn't stop them.
Idk more context is needed. Is there a history of inappropriate behaviour from you. Have you come close to a line before. Why do you need a gym buddy? There's usually a reason for distrust.
This is a good and kind response but it also kind of leaves her in the same place you were, which is that she doesn’t know what you want. If I were you I would also say (either now in an additional text or immediately when you talk again) that “If you are willing, though, I do want to try. I do want to be with you.”
One of you needs to take more of a decisive leap or this might just slowly end because you’re both waiting for the other person to make a decision. Be the one who decides.
Consider showing him this post.
I couldn’t do the one weekend we stayed at a cabin with my wife’s mom, I know I couldn’t survive 6 months. I’d die or something worse. The guy is going ti have to stick to his guns and lay down some rules if it has the slightest chance of working.
Someone suggested a house swap. Could you do that and get more space and let your wife travel in for a bit? Might break up the time a bit.
Tacky is the nicest possible adjective.
Then don’t self diagnose. The profesional help I suggested would be able to do the diagnosing.
Good luck.
Quality shitpost
You actually think it’s ok to text someone you have been in a relationship with for 1.5 years to end it? Fucking hell. You do it in person you coward.
She was interested because your stupid ass spent thousands of dollars on her
Then what were his intentions? It looks like a grown ass man is trying to make your girlfriend look ridiculous for not knowing your birthday… Where’s the joke? “Haha, stupid her, believing her boyfriend’s best friend like an idiot?”
That not drinking one is a big one! Therapy and journaling are also great options too.
Some other things that might work in the interim:
Positive self-affirmations that you do daily.
You can also try out CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) before you get your new therapist. It's a way to recognize your thoughts/feelings and change the narrative so you can change behavior. There's lots of information on Google.
And have you considered talking to your partner about some of your triggers, if you know some? Like maybe him talking about someone's bikini pics right before leaving for work is something that he can try not to do moving forward.
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Stop being the “cool girl”, it will only lead to your unhappiness.
Save it as evidence, tell him that he cuts all contact with you or you will report him for stalking. If he is that down bad that he writes a 4 page letter what do you think he will put that energy into if he keeps obsessing.
Save it as evidence, tell him that he cuts all contact with you or you will report him for stalking. If he is that down bad that he writes a 4 page letter what do you think he will put that energy into if he keeps obsessing.
Sorry but you have zero future with your husband. Fix the root cause and everything else will sort itself out as long as you have the will.
I have a couple of thoughts here. First, I can apoericate how a bad childhood leads to poor choices.
But that isn't an excuse, it isnt license. In real lifebifvyou make shitty decisions, there are consequences.
You do neither yourself nor her any benifet by not telling her in straghtfoward terms of your hurt, anger and disapointment in her.
And you have every right to those feelings, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
You should demand an explanation of her actions followed by her sincere apology. That is the bare bones miminum.
And if she can't do that without blameshifting, gasighting or trickle truthing you, you must dump her.
Because she will do this again, except she will be more careful to hide it.
I wish you luck.
You could continue with catfishing her a bit just to see what she does but I think regardless, she is not the one.
You don't have to “get over this”. You have the right to not even begin to try to “get over this”.
You fulfilled your side of the promise: you have used this year to learn, grow, and change in order to be a better partner and person. Your wife has… not.
I think you should continue to see the therapist on your own. Use your energy to continue to work on yourself and your relationship with your daughter.
My partner and I actually did this. He moved with me far from our homes for 4 years where I went to study. I didn’t even ask him to come with me, I had assumed we would go long distance and fail but je offered to come and he was ver supportive to me. We weren’t even married or with kids and still aren’t, but have been together now for more than 10 years and are definitely life partners. These things can work out but every situation and every couple are different.
Right! It's so sad!
I agree with this completely. To add on: loosening up is normal as you can become aroused. That’s a good thing OP. It stops you from getting hurt while having sex. If you wanted to mimic being tighter while in missionary, you can do kegels while he’s inside of you. Especially if you start the grip as he’s pulling out of you.
I don’t think your partner meant to be insulting but I can understand why you felt hurt by what he said. I recommend communicating how you’re feeling and to try having more open conversations about your sexual interests and preferences. The fact that he’s communicating is a good thing. He just needs to get better at it which takes practice. Don’t hide how you feel from him but don’t shut down any future discussions either.
She did not gave a reason for the no contact. She only said she does not trust we will not get in an argue again, and that is the reason that she wants to stop and that she cant handle the discussions on whatsapp anymore, i promised to do better but she does not accept it. She does not give any explanation why she wants no contact at all now, her mom says she wants rest, we were really in love, i really dont understand how she can handle this having no contact at all
But when you let your son see it happen to you you're also telling him that's what love is. Do you want him to push aside his own autonomy and will to stand up for himself and walk on egg shells to please an abusive future partner, or worse become a future abusive partner?
Letting kids grow up in that environment is still letting it happen to and affect them. Now you have this knowledge of the reality of your marriage. So what are you going to do about it?
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This best comeback is to say nothing to him the next time he does something like this. Act like he is insiginifcant. If he tries to confront you then calmly tell him you do not speak to people beneath you and you will have someone else deal with him annoying you. Then go to a worker at the gym to tell them about the harassment.
This will work for two reasons. One he did not get you to react in the manner he wanted. Two people do not like to be made to feel small and that is what you will be doing to him.
Your name suits. I’m not excusing what she did- but if he doesn’t tell her what she did wrong, she might do this to other people. The apology is for the transphobic and derogatory remarks, and explaining why he reacted the way he did. The reaction was not to a trans person, but to what she did to him. Calling her transphobic names and calling her a man implicates that he is repulsed by her transexuality, which may be the case – but she shouldn’t go around thinking being trans is the problem. It’s making other people touch your genitals without their consent that he was disgusted by.
It’s going to be a semester so 4 months. No don’t be sorry, you’re so right!! I just wanted to hear other people’s opinions. It is unfortunate, but your words really help thank you!!
He cheated on you and you don't want to hurt him by leaving?
By staying you send a clear message… cheating isn't a dealbreaker
Men don’t usually go jerk off in the bathroom at a brothel. The whole point of being at a brothel is there are ways to orgasm without jerking off.
How else could one say it?
Please talk to her.
“Hey babe, I’ve noticed since you started birth control that it has affected your mood and libido. I’m really worried about you. Have you felt a difference or change?” If she agrees things are different “have you talked to your doctor about other options? Non hormonal birth control pills? Or an iud? Or if you’d prefer, we can just go back to only condoms? Or even a diaphragm? I want to work through this with you. Let’s look at solutions together if you want.”
It’s not rude to point out that you’ve noticed changes. Maybe stay clear of the weight discussion. There is already enough to focus on that you’re concerned about. And then perhaps once she gets her mood and energy levels under control with a change in BC you can start suggesting going for romantic walks as a regular thing. Get fitter together and enjoy each others company.
Yeah. One time might be a fluke. Twice is a definite they don’t give af about you. More than that? Yeah op has let it happen and now it definitely will never stop.
Where are all the “girls can like sex too” people? Not sure why him having a sexual history bothers you.
Thank you, I didn’t know this was an option. I need to express these thoughts but haven’t had a place to do it.
Yeah, you're right. I just can't help but feel that he didn't really do anything bad since technically we weren't together. Throwing away such a long relationship over this feels AWFUL.
You guys aren't in Jr High. There isn't some wild twist of fate love story happening here. You're 25 and he's 29, that is far too old to be playing these relationship games.
You guys broke up under negative circumstances. You had sex with someone afterwards. You did absolutely nothing wrong! He is suddenly jealous and can't believe you did that? I can. Everyone can.
Let me ask ya.. What is the appropriate timeframe for me to have sex with someone after we break up? Is it a day? Is it a month? Is it a year? Am I expected to enter the priesthood for a set amount of time until my partner comes back around and decides I'm suddenly deserving of their continued presence in my life?…
Don't let anyone make you feel bad about having sex with someone when you are single… and while you're at it tell your friend group that Santa's not real, the East Bunny doesn't shit chocolate eggs and that Mathew McConaughey isn't coming to sweep them off their feet!
It doesn't have to be. But in this case where he was never 100% in the relationship and he was actively “sourcing opportunities” and when you caught him he kept going, this is a deal breaker. He has shown you the lifestyle he prefers and probably expects.
I don't think you even need to talk to him about it. Just do your research on divorce options quietly and when you have your ducks in a row, kick him to the curb.
People who are chronically late fall into one of two categories in my experience.
1) they think their time is more valuable than yours and don’t respect you.
2) they have executive dysfunction that is not well managed. This is often due to mental health issues or being neurodivergent (ADHD, Asperger’s, etc).
I suspect he’s #2 and grew up with a helicopter parent who got them up and ready and kept them on a schedule due to his request that you call him to remind him vs him setting an alarm.
You’ve discussed it more than once and he’s not making the change. So now you know what you’re working with. Does that seem like a good fit?
Punctuality is a funny thing. Like…my partner always wants to be 10-15 min early. Whereas I think that’s rude and on time is…on time. Not early, not late. I used to hate that he’d show up early as I plan things down to the minutes. Now I know that if it’s something for him, we are going to be 10 min early min. But if it’s my thing, he knows that I mean the exact time I said.
I dunno. It sucks if he’s otherwise awesome but being late and not calling comes off as rude and inconsiderate regardless of the reason.
Ask yourself why he can’t find a woman his own age group who wants to be with him….
Don't confess your feelings. You're out of your depth here. I've seen it many times in this sub forum, person has feelings for their good friend, confesses, loses both the romance and the friendship.
Especially since you don't get the feeling she reciprocates the feelings, this is doomed. And it will definitely mess up the friendship and your place in the friend group.
Instead ask other girls out, get more experience with dating and relationships.
There is nothing pretty about unrequited love.