I have an extremely high sex drive and my wife does not. She does what she can to keep up but after almost 20 years, it hasn’t been worth divorcing over. And she even offered in the past to have an open relationship so I could be satisfied, but my satisfaction isn’t in just getting off, it’s being intimate with my partner. So if it’s not as often as I’d like we’ll, that’s a drag but when it is, it’s incredible and worth every moment of waiting.
I read your post history. I was you like 15 years ago. If you can accept that you deserve better, and separate yourself, not only from shitty friends, but very very shitty boyfriends – your life will get better. You may be lonely for a while, you may question your choices, but eventually you will look back and wonder why you stayed as long as you did. There is a whole world out there other than the little one you’ve cultivated for yourself that you feel “comfortable” in right now. These problems seem manageable to you only because they’re familiar. It’s not worth it. I promise you.
If she's already done it it's cheating and the relationship should just be over (cheating plus duplicitous behaviour to cover/justify is an instant relationship ender for me). If it's not already happened you need to decide if it's something you are ok with. Personally with such things I thing the answer should be no if it's not an enthusiastic yes.
He swears up and down he has never ever cheated in his life… but I firmly believe that even flirting is a form of cheating a betrayal. And the fact he got mad and gave me the silent treatment for two days over just looking (I never even looked) at a man shows you how double standard this is. They always say the cheater will make the accusations
It's nothing to do with time away from their partner. It's time by themselves. Some people really value that solitude and space, others don't. It has exactly nothing to do with how they might feel about any significant others in their life at the time. There's really not much more to it.
Maybe it's her O-Negative face?
He has no control over this.
You’re going to have to roll with it because he has to or he won’t have a job.
He's negging you. He wants control in the relationship and making you feel like garbage.
The title says that he wants kids and you don't but your post says that he doesn't. Can you clarify?
I have an extremely high sex drive and my wife does not. She does what she can to keep up but after almost 20 years, it hasn’t been worth divorcing over. And she even offered in the past to have an open relationship so I could be satisfied, but my satisfaction isn’t in just getting off, it’s being intimate with my partner. So if it’s not as often as I’d like we’ll, that’s a drag but when it is, it’s incredible and worth every moment of waiting.
I read your post history. I was you like 15 years ago. If you can accept that you deserve better, and separate yourself, not only from shitty friends, but very very shitty boyfriends – your life will get better. You may be lonely for a while, you may question your choices, but eventually you will look back and wonder why you stayed as long as you did. There is a whole world out there other than the little one you’ve cultivated for yourself that you feel “comfortable” in right now. These problems seem manageable to you only because they’re familiar. It’s not worth it. I promise you.
guy 1 isn't comfortable with seeing me with guy 2 or being able to see that I'm at his house.
Who gives a fuck? He isn't your boyfriend
He is using you for only sex at this point, he broke up with you (or it was “mutual”)
I'll bet he suggested opening the relationship too?
Problem is sexes are swapped here.
If she's already done it it's cheating and the relationship should just be over (cheating plus duplicitous behaviour to cover/justify is an instant relationship ender for me). If it's not already happened you need to decide if it's something you are ok with. Personally with such things I thing the answer should be no if it's not an enthusiastic yes.
He swears up and down he has never ever cheated in his life… but I firmly believe that even flirting is a form of cheating a betrayal. And the fact he got mad and gave me the silent treatment for two days over just looking (I never even looked) at a man shows you how double standard this is. They always say the cheater will make the accusations
It's nothing to do with time away from their partner. It's time by themselves. Some people really value that solitude and space, others don't. It has exactly nothing to do with how they might feel about any significant others in their life at the time. There's really not much more to it.