I understand where you are coming from, but both my boyfriend and I disagree that I was snooping – it's not as if I'd been deliberately rifling through his bookshelf, it was literally in my line of sight so picked it up out of curiosity. Besides, it's not as if we forbid each other from looking at each other's stuff, within reason…
I did not “force” him to destory it. It was his suggestion that we go on a walk and throw it in the first bin we came to.
You also seem to be missing the main point of the post. Even if it was snooping, does that really excuse what was written?
I disagree with some others here. It is a note for you. You should 100% have the right to read it or not, without any interference from others. Make it clear to them that it is not their not but yours, and you have a right to it.
So I told him right off sarcastically “I'm so glad you got to finish your mission” meaning it was more important to him than I was.
You are not telling him how you actually feel. It is very easy to use sarcasm to communicate annoyance and hurt. All of us are guilty of this. And it's understandable from what you are describing, that you feel unacknowledged and ignored. But, he's a dum dum, and you're going to need to tell him things very directly.
Reconciliation without remorse is impossible and please check out the sub s/survivinginfedelity they will have a different outlook and give you actual advice
Definitely bring it up with him tomorrow. I donβt envy your position. Has your wife done anything to reconcile since you found out she was still planning on seeing her AP?
Pretty massive difference there, and this doesn't sound anything like what OP said. That's why I'm asking OP to clarify as it was their words, not ours.
You are wrong on so many levels. First of all, you are trying to break up a sibling relationship simply because they don't share a biological parent. Are you serious? Then you somehow think that you can give orders to your bf and that he should simply follow them regardless of whether he disagrees or not. You are being ridiculous. You have jealousy issues and if I could, I would advise your bf to find a new gf.
How late is “I responded to her late because I was busy”. IMO, it sounds like she was really excited but you rescheduling, and then taking your sweet time to communicate with her because you were busy probably turned her excited off pretty quick. A text at 3am is usually not a good thing, I don't know her life but if I am up at 3am, its because I am with a girl (I am a guy)
Your friend is dumb af. Most people would think itβs reasonable to not want their partner to do coke. Lord
Well that wasn't the way I expected this question to go.
No, it wasn't the right thing to do. I understand wanting to help her get over you, but it's still needlessly cruel.
Anyone who says it is justified to hit someone is going to do it again the next time they feel justified. And the next. And the next. I'd get out.
I understand where you are coming from, but both my boyfriend and I disagree that I was snooping – it's not as if I'd been deliberately rifling through his bookshelf, it was literally in my line of sight so picked it up out of curiosity. Besides, it's not as if we forbid each other from looking at each other's stuff, within reason…
I did not “force” him to destory it. It was his suggestion that we go on a walk and throw it in the first bin we came to.
You also seem to be missing the main point of the post. Even if it was snooping, does that really excuse what was written?
I disagree with some others here. It is a note for you. You should 100% have the right to read it or not, without any interference from others. Make it clear to them that it is not their not but yours, and you have a right to it.
You cant be with someone expecting them to change. If none of his habits ever change, will you be happy in this relationship?
Yes!
So I told him right off sarcastically “I'm so glad you got to finish your mission” meaning it was more important to him than I was.
You are not telling him how you actually feel. It is very easy to use sarcasm to communicate annoyance and hurt. All of us are guilty of this. And it's understandable from what you are describing, that you feel unacknowledged and ignored. But, he's a dum dum, and you're going to need to tell him things very directly.
Reconciliation without remorse is impossible and please check out the sub s/survivinginfedelity they will have a different outlook and give you actual advice
People grow up and change. That's what's happened here and you've grown apart.
Definitely bring it up with him tomorrow. I donβt envy your position. Has your wife done anything to reconcile since you found out she was still planning on seeing her AP?
Pretty massive difference there, and this doesn't sound anything like what OP said. That's why I'm asking OP to clarify as it was their words, not ours.
You are wrong on so many levels. First of all, you are trying to break up a sibling relationship simply because they don't share a biological parent. Are you serious? Then you somehow think that you can give orders to your bf and that he should simply follow them regardless of whether he disagrees or not. You are being ridiculous. You have jealousy issues and if I could, I would advise your bf to find a new gf.
“I told my daughter that I wished she'd never been born and that she means nothing to me, why isn't she over it yet”
How late is “I responded to her late because I was busy”. IMO, it sounds like she was really excited but you rescheduling, and then taking your sweet time to communicate with her because you were busy probably turned her excited off pretty quick. A text at 3am is usually not a good thing, I don't know her life but if I am up at 3am, its because I am with a girl (I am a guy)